AtomicQuote

Tristan Taormino Quote

If the conversation is about one partner’s jealousy or other intense feelings, your first goal should be to listen. Reassure her of your commitment to the relationship. At the moment when a partner is having intense feelings such as hurt, insecurity, jealousy, or betrayal, acknowledge those feelings, validate and respect them, even if you don’t understand them. Don’t try to talk anyone out of how they’re feeling with rational arguments; telling them why they shouldn’t feel a certain way will get you nowhere. A more objective opinion and reassurances about what’s going on from your perspective can come later.

Tristan Taormino

If the conversation is about one partner’s jealousy or other intense feelings, your first goal should be to listen. Reassure her of your commitment to the relationship. At the moment when a partner is having intense feelings such as hurt, insecurity, jealousy, or betrayal, acknowledge those feelings, validate and respect them, even if you don’t understand them. Don’t try to talk anyone out of how they’re feeling with rational arguments; telling them why they shouldn’t feel a certain way will get you nowhere. A more objective opinion and reassurances about what’s going on from your perspective can come later.

Related Quotes

All women do have a different sense of sexuality, or sense of fun, or sense of like what's sexy or cool or tough.

Angelina Jolie

All women do have a different sense of sexuality, or sense of fun, or sense of like what's sexy or cool or tough.

Tags: cool, women, fun, sexy

Manners and politeness will never become old-fashioned.

Auliq Ice

Manners and politeness will never become old-fashioned.

Tags: bad behavior, behavior, characters, courage, displine, good behaviour, good character, happiness, learning from mistakes, life

When you're as hot as you are, no amount of ice will do.

Anthony T. Hincks

When you're as hot as you are, no amount of ice will do.

Tags: beauty, color, hot, ice, love, philosophy, pink, sexy, you

Since when has the world of computer software design been about what people want? This is a simple question of evolution. The day is quickly coming when every knee will bow down to a silicon fist, and...

Bill Gates

Since when has the world of computer software design been about what people want? This is a simple question of evolution. The day is quickly coming when every knee will bow down to a silicon fist, and...

Tags: design

Change is inevitable. Progression is a choice. We all move, but are you going to move forward?

Ricky Maye

Change is inevitable. Progression is a choice. We all move, but are you going to move forward?

Tags: abuse, abused, abussive, acts, addiction, anxiety, beautiful, beauty, christian, church

A confident woman wears a smile and has this air of comfortability and pleasantness about her.

Jaachynma N.E. Agu

A confident woman wears a smile and has this air of comfortability and pleasantness about her.

Tags: accomplishments, amazom, aspiration, be different, book, business, chiyson, entrepreneurship, greater glory, greatness

Do not avert your eyes.It is important that you see this.It is important that you feelthis.

Kamand Kojouri

Do not avert your eyes.It is important that you see this.It is important that you feelthis.

Tags: acknowledge, animals, art, artist, atrocity, avert, awaken, awakening, aware, awareness

And by making that plan you have differentiated yourself from more than ninety percent of the population. You are one of the few, who has a clear direction, a decisive plan of action.

Chris Murray

And by making that plan you have differentiated yourself from more than ninety percent of the population. You are one of the few, who has a clear direction, a decisive plan of action.

Tags: achievement and attitude, achievement gap, achievements, achieving dreams, achieving excellence, achieving mastery, achieving success, arriving, business, doing

Love is like a good cake; you never know when it's coming, but you'd better eat it when it does!

C. JoyBell C.

Love is like a good cake; you never know when it's coming, but you'd better eat it when it does!

Tags: cake, inspirational, inspirational life, inspirational love, love, true love

It is still cheating, even if nobody comes.

Mokokoma Mokhonoana

It is still cheating, even if nobody comes.

Tags: a bit on the side, a play on words, abstruse, adultery, affair, ambiguity, ambiguous, ambivalent, amour, aphorism
About Tristan Taormino

Tristan Taormino (born May 9, 1971) is an American feminist author, columnist, sex educator, activist, editor, speaker, radio host, and pornographic film director. She is most recently known for her book Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, which is often recommended as a starter guide to polyamory and non-monogamy.