In fact, the Upholder commitment to meeting expectations can sometimes make Upholders seem…cold. There’s a relentless quality to Upholders. They’re going to do what must be done even, sometimes, if th...
If you’re not failing, you’re not trying hard enough.
I wasn't as happy as I could be, and my life wasn't going to change unless I made it change.
I was always telling myself, Keep it simple. But as Albert Einstein pointed out, Everything should be made as simple as possible, but not simpler.
I think adversity magnifies behavior. Tend to be a control freak? You'll become more controlling. Eat for comfort? You'll eat more. And on the positive, if you tend to focus on solutions and celebrate...
Elias Canetti observed, One lives in the naïve notion that later there will be more room than in the entire past.
As Oscar Wilde wrote, with his characteristic brand of thought-provoking overstatement, When we are happy we are always good, but when we are good we are not always happy. Now,
An unmade bed is a common broken window, which is why Make the bed is one of the most popular happiness-project resolutions, and in fact, as Charles Duhigg points out in his fascinating book The Power...
Aaron Beck, founder of cognitive behavioral therapy, maintains that people find it easy to notice what their partners do wrong, but not what they do right, so he suggests keeping marriage diaries to t...
A promotion-focused person recycles in order to make the environment cleaner; a prevention-focused person recycles in order to avoid getting a fine. Different arguments resonate with different people,...
A conversation with a Moderator friend revealed another telling distinction. I got a sundae from my favorite ice-cream store, she told me, and it was delicious. But after a while, I could hardly taste...
Work harder to appreciate your ordinary day.
There is no Future-Gretchen, only Now-Gretchen.
The marriage expert John Gottman calls the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse for their destructive role in relationships: stonewalling, defensiveness, criticism, and contempt. Well,
The habit of bed making is correlated with a sense of greater well-being and higher productivity. Other common broken windows include having a messy car; accumulating piles of laundry or trash; not be...
Six obvious ways to make an activity less convenient: • Increase the amount of physical or mental energy required (leave the cell phone in another room, ban smoking inside or near a building). • Hid...
Severity that does not tend to increase good, or prevent evil, is idle.
One Secret of Adulthood is Never start a sentence with the words ‘No offense’? And
Once the habit is in place, we can effortlessly do the things we want to do.
Leisure must be entered on the schedule as its own activity; it’s not something I get only when I have nothing else to do. Because I always have something else to do. Having