Esther Perel Quote

Introducing uncertainty sometimes requires nothing more than letting go of the illusion of certitude. In this shift of perception, we recognize the inherent mystery of our partner. I point out to Adele that if we are to maintain desire with one person over time we must be able to bring a sense of unknown into a familiar space. In the words of Proust, The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.

Esther Perel

Introducing uncertainty sometimes requires nothing more than letting go of the illusion of certitude. In this shift of perception, we recognize the inherent mystery of our partner. I point out to Adele that if we are to maintain desire with one person over time we must be able to bring a sense of unknown into a familiar space. In the words of Proust, The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.

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About Esther Perel

Esther Perel (born 1958) is a Belgian psychotherapist of Polish-Jewish descent who has explored the tension between the need for security (love, belonging and closeness) and the need for freedom (erotic desire, adventure and distance) in human relationships.Perel promoted the concept of "erotic intelligence" in her book Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence (2006), which has been translated into 24 languages. After publishing the book, she became an international advisor on sex and relationships. She gave a TED talk in February 2013 called "The secret to desire in a long-term relationship", and another in March 2015 called "Rethinking infidelity ... a talk for anyone who has ever loved."Perel is the host of the podcast Where Should We Begin?, which is based inside her therapist's office as she sees anonymous couples in search of insight into topics such as infidelity, sexlessness and grief.
In 2016, Perel was added to Oprah Winfrey's Supersoul 100 list of visionaries and influential leaders.In July 2021, Perel launched the card game, Where Should We Begin - A Game of Stories to inspire deeper connections and dialogues. "It's really about relationship enhancing, relationship creation, connecting, reconnecting, countering social anxiety, and controlling social atrophy," Perel explains. As of October 2021, the game is only available within the United States.