C. Terry Warner Quote

Living in the box means being convinced that other people and our circumstances are responsible for our feelings and our helplessness to overcome them. What we can't see when we're in the box is that the way the world appears to us is our projection, and that we are making this projection to justify ourselves in self-betrayal. We cannot see that it's not others' actions but our accusations that result in our feeling offended.

C. Terry Warner

Living in the box means being convinced that other people and our circumstances are responsible for our feelings and our helplessness to overcome them. What we can't see when we're in the box is that the way the world appears to us is our projection, and that we are making this projection to justify ourselves in self-betrayal. We cannot see that it's not others' actions but our accusations that result in our feeling offended.

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About C. Terry Warner

C. Terry Warner is an American academic, author and business consultant. He founded the Arbinger Institute, which does consulting and training based on his academic work on the foundations of human behavior and self-deception. In writings and seminars, Warner argues that people are responsible for their own actions and even negative emotions which are often used to accuse others rather than responding to their needs, and that people therefore have the power to free their relationships with others from negativity.
Warner holds a PhD from Yale University and is a professor emeritus of philosophy at Brigham Young University. In 1967 he joined the faculty at Brigham Young University, where he served as chair of the Philosophy Department, director of the Honors Program, and dean of the College of General Studies. Among Warner's students was Steven Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. He was a visiting senior member of Linacre College, Oxford University.