Living in the box means being convinced that other people and our circumstances are responsible for our feelings and our helplessness to overcome them. What we can't see when we're in the box is that...
When we criticize people, their consciences console them. When we love them, their consciences indict them.
Blame is the lie by which we convince ourselves that we are victims. It is the lie that robs us of our serenity, our generosity, our confidence, an our delight in life . . . For it is the act of blami...
Self-betrayal occurs when we do to another what we sense we should not do or don't do what we sense we should. Thus self-betrayal is a sort of moral self-compromise, a violation of our own personal se...
Honest self-understanding liberates us from our stuck emotions.
We influence others most profoundly when we do not seek to change them at all, but simply go about straightforwardly doing the right and loving thing.
Our humanity consists in our ability to sense and respect and respond to the humanity of others.
A responsible step in loosening the grip of any lie we might be living is to ask ourselves, solemnly and seriously, this momentous question: "Might I be in the wrong?" What gives this question its pow...
The very fact that we need to struggle for approval proves that we do not approve of ourselves. Having to convince ourselves of something means we do not really believe it. That is why we contort ours...