What is the truth? When your critic launches an attack against you, it can seem incredibly convincing. So much so that many people just accept whatever their critic says as accurate. Part of this is d...
The most basic way to begin this practice is to consciously increase your speaking volume to a level that is in the normal-to-loud range. This is the volume that is loud enough so that everyone can he...
The old propaganda campaign will slowly influence you over time to believe that things cannot change and you are stuck the way you are. This door is open only for a short while, and you must make the...
The part that is convinced everyone will dislike me because I won’t meet their expectations is Double More—it always demands I do more. When I ask Double More just how much more I should do, it always...
While it might sound abrasive and harsh, your critic is actually a very scared, vulnerable part of you. Even though your critic seems tough, chances are it is terrified of
A friend and teacher of mine, Dr. Matthew May, once told me that the way to get over rejection is to take many rejection inoculations. Much like an inoculation, if you take regular, small doses of rej...
A powerful way to overcome your fear of eye contact is to engage in the Smile and Hello Practice discussed earlier. This involves walking down a busy street and making eye contact with as many people...
Additionally, it can help to give your critic a name or title. This not only helps you label and catch it quicker, it also helps you take some of the charge out of what it is saying by giving it a pla...
Being nice does not come out of goodness or high morals. It comes out of a fear of displeasing others and receiving their disapproval. It’s driven by fear, not virtue.
By now, however, you have realized that the pattern of avoidance produces relief in the short term, but tends to cause more fear and restriction down the road. One simple way to shift your pattern of...
During my public speaker training, I learned it is inevitable that I will sometimes misspeak, stumble over my words, or make some sort of mistake. This prospect used to terrify me, and it was one of t...
Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway (New York: Random House, 1987) Susan Jeffers
For a list of recommended Les Brown materials, see the Recommended Resources section at the end of the book.
The best way to break the trance is to start asking yourself specific questions that will help you see the situation clearly.
I AM loving. I treat the people in my life so well. I am warm and affectionate with my friends, my family, my girlfriend, and my cats. People around me can feel my warmth and love.
When you name your critic, you tell your subconscious that the critic is not you. This reinforces that the harsh, negative thoughts are simply ideas in your mind. They do not reflect clear facts or th...
Your purpose could simply be to enjoy yourself, to fully listen to another person and hear about her life, or to share something interesting with someone else. Your purpose could be vulnerability and...
Radical Acceptance (New York: Bantam Dell, 2004) Tara Brach
Rather than being a single entity, you can view yourself as a collection of different parts. Part of you wants to eat a pizza, and part of you wants to get the salad because it is healthier. Part of y...
Self-Esteem (Oakland: New Harbinger, 2000) Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning
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