When you believe this, you will keep most of what you think and feel to yourself. After all, who would really care anyway? As a result, if we are in a situation where we are forced to speak, we do the...
What is the truth? When your critic launches an attack against you, it can seem incredibly convincing. So much so that many people just accept whatever their critic says as accurate. Part of this is d...
Much of the time, when we experience social anxiety and come to fear interactions, it is because we have not chosen or defined our desired outcome. Or, it is because the desired outcome we’ve chosen d...
Self-Esteem (Oakland: New Harbinger, 2000) Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning
A final way to experiment with exposure to eye contact is to decide to sustain eye contact with people when you are listening to them. As they are talking, allow yourself to look directly into one of...
The general attitude of owning your strengths can be summed up in two words: Of course. • Of course I am intelligent. • Of course I am funny. • Of course I am an attractive guy. • Of course I am kind...
Hidden assumptions In addition to asking yourself questions, you can defend against your critic by examining your hidden assumptions about yourself and the world around you. These assumptions are ofte...
The part that is convinced everyone will dislike me because I won’t meet their expectations is Double More—it always demands I do more. When I ask Double More just how much more I should do, it always...
The most basic way to begin this practice is to consciously increase your speaking volume to a level that is in the normal-to-loud range. This is the volume that is loud enough so that everyone can he...
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