ASK YOURSELF: Who are the people you are drawn to who bring out the best in you? How do they make you feel? Is your positive energy doing the same thing for others?
Why Does Mirroring Work? Scientific research suggests ‘mirroring’ techniques works because of the mirror-neurons which are fired in our brains when we both perceive and take action. When we observe so...
What is appropriate in one setting may be entirely inappropriate in another. How you behave at a football game is different than how you behave at your sister’s wedding. How you interact with your clo...
To cultivate bravery and courage, ground yourself in your character values:Building a solid foundation of integrity and character will fortify your confidence to face down fears and take bold action.
Becoming aware of what you are doing and how others perceive you will provide you with instant insight for making changes where necessary.
Who are we the most comfortable with? People who are the most like us! The Similarity-Attraction Hypothesis (Newcomb, 1956) found that similar (real or perceived) personalities are a major determinant...
There are times when eye contact can move to the dark side and become creepy, hostile, rude, or condescending. When it is overused or made for the wrong reasons, eye contact can make others feel uncom...
Proper posture conveys that you are ready to take command and master new situations. When you project this level of confidence, you will instill confidence in others.
Neen James (NeenJames.com) is an eloquent and successful international speaker who stands at four-feet-eleven with a rich Australian dialect and a high-pitched voice. For years, fellow speakers with g...
In years gone by, particularly in the East and the South, ladies would attend charm school to learn how to elegantly stand, sit, dance, and walk. Even today, there are Cotillion classes for young peop...
By mirroring, speaking, and moving in tandem with my clients, I provided them with a sense of familiar comfort and ease which helped us work well together. When they leaned forward, I would lean forwa...
Years ago, my childhood friend Steve lost his father. Since Steve had left Tallahassee shortly after high school graduation, we had not seen each other for over a decade. Upon learning of his father’s...
In his book, How to Win Friends & Influence People, Dale Carnegie encourages you to greet people with animation and enthusiasm. This form of kinesthetic responsiveness provides a splendid example of h...
I remember hearing years ago about a centenarian being interviewed on her birthday. She was asked, Throughout your life, you have witnessed amazing change and innovation. The past one-hundred years ha...
We must remember that some hand gestures which are commonly used and widely accepted in the U.S. might be considered rude or offensive in other countries. As always, I encourage you to be mindful of h...
Think of the times that others remembered your name and used it kindly. How did it make you feel? When you use someone’s name it makes him or her feel recognized, appreciated, and special.
Take the initiative with deliberate steps to be a polite person:1. Say please when you are making a request or asking for help. 2. Say thank you when a person has said or done something kind or at you...
Mingle• Be the connector—introduce people to each other who may not otherwise connect.• Be a conversation fire starter; point out what people have in common as you are introducing them.• Seek out the...
It’s not bravery unless you are doing something which causes you to feel afraid. Unless there is some degree of fear or apprehension involved, bravery is not even needed.
Handshakes, Hugs & Other Touching. Learning how to touch appropriately can elevate your presentation, demonstrate respect, and convey confidence.