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Yet being in the spotlight is also dangerous because a child's success may be construed by a narcissistic mother as competition. In self-defense, a son or daughter may insist that any achievement is a fluke, and any award is undeserved or is really a tribute to their mother. They suppress their own healthy narcissism to please a mother . . they believe any success is a mistake and at any moment they will be found out and identified as a fake or a fraud. The mind-set is, I am succeeding because I can fake excellence, but inside I am not really worthy or not really able. Such self-effacement is common in people who are pressured to excel and also primed to assure others . . . that they are subservient and inferior.

Terri Apter

Yet being in the spotlight is also dangerous because a child's success may be construed by a narcissistic mother as competition. In self-defense, a son or daughter may insist that any achievement is a fluke, and any award is undeserved or is really a tribute to their mother. They suppress their own healthy narcissism to please a mother . . they believe any success is a mistake and at any moment they will be found out and identified as a fake or a fraud. The mind-set is, I am succeeding because I can fake excellence, but inside I am not really worthy or not really able. Such self-effacement is common in people who are pressured to excel and also primed to assure others . . . that they are subservient and inferior.

Tags: mother, narcissism, pleasing, pleasing others, worthy

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