C. Terry Warner Quote

Blame is the lie by which we convince ourselves that we are victims. It is the lie that robs us of our serenity, our generosity, our confidence, an our delight in life . . . For it is the act of blaming that can't co-exist with self-responsibility -- or with freedom from inner agitation and strained relationships. Abandon the practice of blaming, and we see the fear melt away that we have associated with being honest about ourselves and taking the full measure of responsibility for our emotional and spiritual condition.

C. Terry Warner

Blame is the lie by which we convince ourselves that we are victims. It is the lie that robs us of our serenity, our generosity, our confidence, an our delight in life . . . For it is the act of blaming that can't co-exist with self-responsibility -- or with freedom from inner agitation and strained relationships. Abandon the practice of blaming, and we see the fear melt away that we have associated with being honest about ourselves and taking the full measure of responsibility for our emotional and spiritual condition.

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About C. Terry Warner

C. Terry Warner is an American academic, author and business consultant. He founded the Arbinger Institute, which does consulting and training based on his academic work on the foundations of human behavior and self-deception. In writings and seminars, Warner argues that people are responsible for their own actions and even negative emotions which are often used to accuse others rather than responding to their needs, and that people therefore have the power to free their relationships with others from negativity.
Warner holds a PhD from Yale University and is a professor emeritus of philosophy at Brigham Young University. In 1967 he joined the faculty at Brigham Young University, where he served as chair of the Philosophy Department, director of the Honors Program, and dean of the College of General Studies. Among Warner's students was Steven Covey, author of The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. He was a visiting senior member of Linacre College, Oxford University.