“ Treating Abuse Today 3(4) pp. 26-33TAT: No. I don't know anymore than you know they're not. But, I'm talking about boundaries and privacy here. As a therapist working with survivors, I have been haras… David L. Calof
“ Perfectionism is the unparalleled defense for emotionally abandoned children. The existential unattainability of perfection saves the child from giving up, unless or until, scant success forces him to… Pete Walker
“ When we are ready to let go of our old controls, we admit that we were powerless over the incest or abuse...We have often thought, 'If only I could have stopped it,' but we could not have stopped it.… Maureen Brady
“ Feeling like, life has been so unfair to me, but what can I say except, "I'm still here." So I'm determined to make the best out of it, take every opportunity as a blessing, and live the rest of my li… Jonathan Anthony Burkett
“ At times I am flabbergasted that my memory is considered false and my alcoholic father's memory is considered rational and sane. Am I not believed because I am a woman? If Peter Freyd were a man who l… Jennifer J. Freyd
“ Denial forces victims to retreat in lifeless existence, dieing in the shadows of buried trauma and painful memories. Trudy Metzger
“ It is important to refuse to be intimidated. That refusal must not be based simply on a calculation of the odds of succeeding. At times, in my case, multiple lawsuits and an ethics charge seemed overw… Anna C. Salter
“ People may not realize the damage that they are doing by placing the blame on the victim ~ but that doesn't lessen the damage that they cause by doing it. Darlene Ouimet
“ My view is that the false memory campaign is a spent force. It failed to realise its key goals, failed to renew itself and has largely faded away. Of course, the false memory campaign has left behind… Michael Salter
“ After what she's been through, there really should be crime scene tape around her heart. John Mark Green
“ You're a survivor because everyday you make a choice not to be governed by their harsh words or actions. No one has the right to take away your happiness. Assunta Harris
“ I can sit in denial of my life because in looking around I see how lucky I am to have survived it. K. Farrell St. Germain
“ If you survive, you have to prove it was that bad; or else, they think you are.Surviving is some kind of sin, like floating up off the dunking stool like a witch. You have to be permanently écorchée,… Roxane Gay
“ Ritually abusive groups also convince children that something evil has been put inside them. For example, a child is made to believe he or she has a "black heart" - seeing the abuser holding an animal… Alison Miller
“ After a victim is made to participate in an act of evil, the people in charge put a lot of energy into convincing the child or adult that he or she is evil and a perpetrator rather than a victim.p324 Alison Miller
“ While a psychiatric diagnosis can serve a purpose in treatment plans, it should not become a tool to discredit a person's disclosure of abuse. Lee Ann Hoff
“ Several researchers demonstrate the ways people fail to label trauma as such or underreport traumatic experiences. In a sample of 1,526 university students, Rausch and Knutson (1991) found that althou… Jennifer J. Freyd
“ The experience of chronic abuse carries within it the gross mislabeling of things. Perpetrators are really "nice daddies." Victims are "evil and seductive" (at the age of three!). Nonprotecting parent… Diane Mandt Langberg
