Resist change at your own peril, Vivian. When something ends, let it end.
The sperm donor that impregnated my mother (with me), passed away. Please, stop sending me private messages of condolences. I never met the man.
How wild it was, to let it be.
Let it be then let it go.
Just watch this moment, without trying to change it at all. What is happening? What do you feel? What do you see? What do you hear?