Cuando sucede algo emocionalmente doloroso y nos decimos que la culpa es nuestra, en realidad estamos diciendo que tenemos control sobre ello: si nosotros cambiamos, el dolor desaparecerá.
Una familia disfuncional es aquella en que los miembros juegan papeles rígidos y en la cual la comunicación está severamente restringida a las declaraciones que se adecuan a estos roles. Los miembros...
If you have an active faith, and you regularly worship and frequently pray, developing your spirituality may mean trusting that what is happening in your life has its own reason and its own results, a...
The key is in learning how to live a healthy, satisfying, and serene life without being dependent on another person for happiness.
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There is an old joke about a nearsighted man who has lost his keys late at night and is looking for them by the light of a street lamp. Another person comes along and offers to help him look but asks...
Most of us have the ability to be far happier and more fulfilled as individuals than we realize. Often, we don’t claim that happiness because we believe someone else’s behavior is preventing us from d...
Hungry people make poor shoppers.
After all, he had secrets to keep about his sexual identity and behavior, and having a wife made him look more ‘normal’ than not having one. I guess that was what he meant when he said he needed me.
It is this very practice of acceptance that allows another to change if he chooses to do so.
Taking responsibility for yourself and your happiness gives a great freedom to children who have felt guilty and responsible for your unhappiness (which they always do). A child can never hope to bala...
It requires a hard look at what is, rather than what you hope will be. As you let go of managing and controlling, you must also let go of the idea that when he changes I’ll be happy. He may never chan...
Eros: Real love is an all-consuming, desperate yearning for the beloved, who is perceived as different, mysterious, and elusive. The depth of love is measured by the intensity of obsession with the lo...
The Greeks were smarter. They used different words, eros and agape, to distinguish between these two profoundly different ways of experiencing what we call love. Eros, of course, refers to passionate...
Developing your spirituality, no matter what your religious orientation, basically means letting go of self-will, of the determination to make things happen the way you think they should. Instead, you...
True acceptance of an individual as he is, without trying to change him through encouragement or manipulation or coercion, is a very high form of love, and very difficult for most of us to practice.
Praising and encouraging are very close to pushing, and when you do that you are trying again to take control of his life. Think about why you are lauding something he’s done. Is it to help raise his...
Self-will means believing that you alone have all the answers. Letting go of self-will means becoming willing to hold still, be open, and wait for guidance for yourself. It means learning to let go of...