Monique once told me, It is the driven of the world who have the hardest lives. They don’t see their families or have time to enjoy a garden or a bedtime story. They may have money and prestige, but t...
Newcomers are taking American jobs. In fact, they are filling jobs that Americans won't take and thus enabling businesses to prosper in a time when minimum-wage workers are hard to find.
Older people could see themselves as part of a circle of caring that begins with our oldest living relatives and flows down to the youngest baby.
One of our most effective coping skills is simply sticking together. In a 2011 New Yorker article called Social Animal, David Brooks writes, Research over the past thirty years makes it clear that wha...
This life stage requires a constant process of adjustment and accommodation
Via our machines— be it phone, television, or computer— we receive an enormous amount of information every day. But we don’t have the time, the energy, and the emotional resilience to deal with all of...
We can take responsibility for our attitudes and focus on our strengths and our joys.
We wither, sag, wrinkle, crinkle, tatter, and become marked by life’s events. Time and gravity, air and water wear us down, each into a unique and precious beauty, every bit as beautiful as a landscap...
Without a certain number of these attributes, a newcomer is unlikely to make it in America. The attributes of resilience are Future orientation Energy and good health The ability to pay attention Ambi...
Attributes of resilience.
Desire to heal.
Realized that this cactus with its withered arms symbolized what my life would be. It would consist of thorns and fruit, pain and beauty. My body would age; my soul would expand.
Bliss is an illuminating experience followed by a great feeling of acceptance and calmness. Joy and gratitude are part of this experience. We hold at the same time the deepest sorrow of the world and...
Developmental psychologist Bernice Neugarten made this distinction between young-old age and old-old age. As long as we can do most of what we want to do, we are young-old age. When our health fundame...
For our own positive mental health, we need to reconstruct some constraints. It is no accident that retreat centers are an increasingly popular vacation spot. Retreats restrict choice and thus, parado...
Good Moral Character
Good stories build good lives. When we are lonely we can remember our good times with loved ones, a blazing sunset, or our sixtieth birthday dinner when everyone told us precisely what they loved abou...
Happiness seekers are unhappy when they don’t get what they want. Meaning seekers can survive negative events.
In our strange and difficult times, one reason the American dream stays alive is that new people keep showing up who believe in it. And, because they believe that America is the land of freedom and op...
Laughter, music, prayer, touch, truth telling, and forgiveness are universal methods of healing.
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