We are the daughters of time, the children of mothers who fed us, rocked us, sang us songs, and kept us safe.
This book focuses on the attitudes and skills we need in order to let go of the past, embrace the new, cope with loss, and experience wisdom, authenticity, and bliss.
The cure for the pain is the pain. Unprocessed pain almost always leads to something much worse than pain. Opening ourselves up to our emotional reactions to that world and allowing ourselves to feel...
The INS is incredibly understaffed. For the last few years Congress has funded enforcement but hasn't funded routine service and processing of documents. A recent newspaper article reported that of th...
The English language contains the words poignant and bittersweet, but it is challenging to find other words to describe the complex emotional states we feel as we run out of time. Our inner experience...
Ten Common Beliefs of the JPI Refugees are ignorant and have no formal education.
Suffering gives us empathy, while happiness gives us hope and energy.
Simone de Beauvoir believed adolescence is when girls realize that men have the power and that their only power comes from consenting to become submissive adored objects. They do not suffer from the p...
Newcomers are taking American jobs. In fact, they are filling jobs that Americans won't take and thus enabling businesses to prosper in a time when minimum-wage workers are hard to find.
Just as Sylvia rated her pain, so can we rate our own stress on a ten point scale. When we first start doing all our stressors are eleven, but over time we learn that real tens are rare occurrences. M...
It seems counterintuitive that more choice leads to more depression. However, when we increase people's opportunities for control, we increase their expectations of control and their sense of responsi...
In his book The Pursuit of Happiness, psychologist David Myers reviewed research on the relationship between money and happiness. He found that once personal income had reached a stable but rather mod...
Great personal suffering can sometimes deepen our souls to the point they crack open and let in great beauty.
Children are also effective at influencing others. Many times in the last few years, I have witnessed children’s letters and testimony touch and influence hard-boiled politicians in ways that adults c...
As a therapist, I tried to help clients create better stories. I asked questions such as, When have you been courageous or stronger than you thought you could be? What would your life look like if you...
We accept our grandchildren for the unique beings they are. This acceptance gives them the confidence to feel they are worthy of the deep love they are given. It helps them see the universe as safe.
Toward our seventies, our bones, shape, vision, sense of smell and taste, and even our teeth change. We react differently to medications. We don’t tolerate the cold as well. As our skin thins, we brui...
Inadequate. Most do not help students with what they need most—a sense of meaning regarding their sexuality, ways to make sense of all the messages, and guidelines on decent behavior in sexual relatio...
How did I choose my friends, what did I feel passionate about, what books I enjoyed and why, and what did I think my talents were?
With each new stage of life, we outgrow the strategies that worked for us at an earlier stage. We find ourselves in an environment that pelts us with more challenges than our current self can manage....