If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
I have found that four givens are particularly relevant to psychotherapy: the inevitability of death for each of us and for those we love; the freedom to make our lives as we will; our ultimate alonen...
I had come to believe that the fear of death is always greatest in those who feel that they have not lived their life fully. A good working formula is: the more unlived life, or unrealized potential,...
I am very often asked why, at the age of eighty-five, I continue to practice. Tip number eighty-five (sheer coincidence that I am now eighty-five years old) begins with a simple declaration: my work w...
He is civilized, polite, a man of manners. He has tamed his wild nature, turned his wolf into a spaniel. And he calls this moderation. Its real name is mediocrity!
He had learned long ago that, in general, the easier it was for anxious patients to reach him, the less likely they were to call. (107)
Había seguido la senda de Zaratustra: había compartido su estado de madurez, había trascendido de sí mismo tendiendo la mano a otros y vivido de una manera que habría estado dispuesto a repetir una y...
Freedom means that one is responsible for one’s own choices, actions, one’s own life situation. Though
Existential isolation, a third given, refers to the unbridgeable gap between self and others, a gap that exists even in the presence of deeply gratifying interpersonal relationships.
Do not create children until one is ready to be a creator and to spawn creators. It is wrong to bear children out of need, wrong to use a child to alleviate loneliness, wrong to provide purpose in lif...
But surely, Breuer
Beware the powerful exclusive attachment to another; it is not, as people sometimes think, evidence of the purity of the love. Such encapsulated, exclusive love—feeding on itself, neither giving to no...
Being empathic is so much a part of everyday discourse—popular singers warble platitudes about being in the other’s skin, walking in the other’s moccasins—that we tend to forget the complexity of the...
At the end of his life, no man, if he be sincere and in possession of his faculties, would ever wish to go though it again. Rather than this, he will much prefer to choose complete nonexistence.
As long as he denies his own agency, real change is unlikely because his attention will be directed toward changing his environment rather than himself.
As Nietzsche said, If we have our own ‘why’ of life, we shall get along with any ‘how.
Always reflect that soon you will be no one, and nowhere.
Als jij bij me bent, houd je me misschien vast in deze wereld.''Ik ben een uitstekende vasthouder.''Beloof je dat?'Ik knikte.
A person of high, rare mental gifts who is forced into a job which is merely useful is like a valuable vase decorated with the most beautiful painting and then used as a kitchen pot.
A nightmare is a failed dream, a dream that, by not handling anxiety, has failed in its role as the guardian of sleep.