When I focus on the way men or husbands generally behave, I start to lump Jamie along with half of humanity. I find myself feeling angry or annoyed with Jamie for things he hasn't even done.
What am I waiting for? What would I do if I weren’t scared? What steps would make things easier? What would I do if I had all the time and money in the world? If I were looking back at...
To be happy at home is the ultimate result of all ambition, the end to which every enterprise and labour tends.
The opposite of happiness is unhappiness, not depression.
The Strategy of Scheduling is a powerful weapon against procrastination. Because of tomorrow logic, we tend to feel confident that we’ll be productive and virtuous—tomorrow. (The word procrastinate co...
Research suggests that when we have conflicting goals, we don’t manage ourselves well. We become anxious and paralyzed, and we often end up doing nothing.
One regrets the loss even of one’s worst habits. Perhaps one regrets them the most. They are such an essential part of one’s personality. —OSCAR WILDE
One of the best ways to make yourself happy is to make other people happy; One of the best ways to make other people happy is to be happy yourself.
Of all the things that wisdom provides for living one’s entire life in happiness, the greatest by far is the possession of friendship.
Obligers may find it difficult to form a habit, because often we undertake habits for our own benefit, and Obligers do things more easily for others than for themselves. For them, the key is external...
My home is a place of unconditional belonging, which is part of its pleasure, part of its pain—as Robert Frost wrote, home is Something you somehow haven’t to deserve.
Just taking one drifting step can you set you in a course that’s very hard to stop.
It’s a Secret of Adulthood: I give myself limits to give myself freedom.
In their thought-provoking book Focus, researchers Tory Higgins and Heidi Grant Halvorson argue that people lean toward being promotion-focused or prevention-focused in their aims.
In the Strategy of Pairing, I couple two activities, one that I need or want to do, and one that I don’t particularly want to do, to get myself to accomplish them both. It’s not a reward, it’s not a t...
If you’re not failing, you’re not trying hard enough. Over-the-counter
I should pursue only those habits that would make me feel freer and stronger.
I feel unsettled at any time when I’m not writing. And I mean that. There’s a sense of peace, and of being in the right place, that I experience only when I’m writing.
I can DO ANYTHING I want, but I can’t DO EVERYTHING I want.
How we schedule our days is how we spend our lives.