What I Value What’s most satisfying to me: saving time, or money, or effort? Does it bother me to act differently from other people, or do I get a charge out of it? Do I spend a lot of time on somethi...
We should make sure the things we do to feel better don’t make us feel worse.
We all must pay, but we can choose that for which we pay.
We all know the secret of dieting...it's the application that's challenging. p 7
Use counters for activities, not for storage.
Upholders-tipped-to-Obligers have a commitment to both inner and outer expectations, for them, the pull of outer expectations is very hard to ignore; UPHOLDER/Obligers must be sure to articulate inner...
Upholders respond readily to both outer expectations and inner expectations. Questioners question all expectations, and will meet an expectation only if they believe it’s justified. Obligers respond r...
Unlike a reward, which must be earned or justified, a treat is a small pleasure or indulgence that we give to ourselves just because we want it.
Underreact to a problem
UPHOLDER/Obligers must be sure to articulate inner expectations and to create boundaries to protect inner expectations from outer interference.
Two kinds of clarity support habit formation: clarity of values and clarity of action. The clearer I am about what I value, and what action I expect from myself—not what other people value, or expect...
Tomorrow Loophole: As part of my investigation of First Steps, I’d identified tomorrow logic. Now doesn’t matter, because we’re going to follow good habits tomorrow.
To be happy, I need to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right.
To be happy, I need to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth.
To be happy, I need to think about feeling good, feeling bad, and feeling right, in an atmosphere of growth. I
To a truly remarkable extent, we’re more likely to do something if it’s convenient, and less likely if it’s not. For this reason, we should pay close attention to the convenience of any activity we wa...
This self-knowledge is crucial because we can build a happy life only on the foundation of our own nature, our own interests, and our own values.
This freedom from decision making is crucial, because when I have to decide—which often involves resisting temptation or postponing gratification—I tax my self-control.
Think about appearances. I wanted my apartment to be less cluttered, and also to look less cluttered.
There's a great satisfaction in knowing that we've made good use of our days, that we've lived up to our expectations of ourselves.