“ The best antidote to worry is action. If there is an action that will lessen the likelihood of a dreaded outcome occurring, and if that action doesn't cost too much in terms of effort or freedom, then… Gavin de Becker
“ In the original form of the word, to worry someone else was to harass, strangle, or choke them. Likewise, to worry oneself is a form of self-harassment. To give it less of a role in our lives, we must… Gavin de Becker
“ As the most powerful people in history, we have climbed to the top of the world food chain, so to speak. Facing not one single enemy or predator who poses to us any danger of consequence, we've found… Gavin de Becker
“ Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman describes seven key abilities most beneficial for human beings: the ability to motivate ourselves, to persist against frustration, to delay gratification, to reg… Gavin de Becker
“ That’s what happens when you’re angry at people. You make them part of your life. —Garrison Keillor In Gavin de Becker
“ The brilliant book Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman describes seven key abilities most beneficial for human beings: the ability to motivate ourselves, to persist against frustration, to delay gr… Gavin de Becker
“ David Mamet’s film House of Games is a wonderful exploration of cons and con artists that shows forced teaming at work. Gavin de Becker
“ When dreaded outcomes are actually imminent we don't worry about themwe take action. Seeing lava from the local volcano make its way down the street toward our house does not cause worry it causes run… Gavin de Becker
“ At core, men are afraid women will laugh at them, while at core, women are afraid men will kill them. Gavin de Becker
“ Ginger is not distracted by the way things could be, used to be, or should be. She perceives only what is. Our reliance on the intuition of a dog is often a way to find permission to have an opinion w… Gavin de Becker
“ If you can bring yourself to apply your imagination to finding the possible favorable outcomes of undesired developments, even if only as an exercise, you'll see that it fosters creativity. This sugge… Gavin de Becker
“ When a baby is born the mother in particular enters into a new larger relationship with the world. She has become connected to all people. She is part of keeping us on earthnot the "us" comprised of i… Gavin de Becker
“ No amount of logic can usually move a battered woman, so persuasion requires emotional leverage, not statistics or moral arguments. . . .I have seen their fear and resistance firsthand . . . I believe… Gavin de Becker
“ You have more brain cells than there are grains of sand on your favorite beach, and you have cleverness, dexterity, and creativity—all of which powerfully combine when you are at risk—if you listen to… Gavin de Becker
“ While you may be able to keep your son Jimmy from owning [a gun], if you try to talk him out of wanting one, you are up against a pretty strong argument: You mean I shouldn't want a device that grants… Gavin de Becker
“ Most men fear getting laughed at or humiliated by a romantic prospect while most women fear rape and death. Gavin de Becker
