Terry Real, who has written extensively about men in relationships, describes a particular unholy triangle between the powerful, irresponsible, and/or abusive father, the codependent, downtrodden wife...
Rather than inhibiting a couple’s sexuality, recognizing the third has a tendency to add spice, not least because it reminds us that we do not own our partners. We
Oscar Wilde wrote, In this world there are only two tragedies. One is getting what one wants, and the other is not getting it. When our desires are unfulfilled, we
Neutralizing each other’s complexity affords us a kind of manageable otherness.
Infidelity hurts. But when we grant it a special status in the hierarchy of marital misdemeanors, we risk allowing it to overshadow the egregious behaviors that may have preceded it or even led to it.
In uncertainty lies the seed of wanting.
I regret to say that we of the FBI are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in some way obstructed interstate commerce. —J. Edgar Hoover
Beginnings are always ripe with possibilities, for they hold the promise of completion. Through love we imagine a new way of being. You see me as I’ve never seen myself. You airbrush my imperfections,...
Armed with an ideology of love that advocates togetherness, we are awkward about pursuing autonomy. This is especially true of the individuality of our desire.
Love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who we are.