Oscar Wilde wrote, In this world there are only two tragedies. One is getting what one wants, and the other is not getting it. When our desires are unfulfilled, we
Neutralizing each other’s complexity affords us a kind of manageable otherness.
Infidelity hurts. But when we grant it a special status in the hierarchy of marital misdemeanors, we risk allowing it to overshadow the egregious behaviors that may have preceded it or even led to it.
In uncertainty lies the seed of wanting.
I regret to say that we of the FBI are powerless to act in cases of oral-genital intimacy, unless it has in some way obstructed interstate commerce. —J. Edgar Hoover
His security rests not only on what Alice does but also on what she thinks. Her fantasies are proof of her freedom and separateness, and that
Beginnings are always ripe with possibilities, for they hold the promise of completion. Through love we imagine a new way of being. You see me as I’ve never seen myself. You airbrush my imperfections,...
Armed with an ideology of love that advocates togetherness, we are awkward about pursuing autonomy. This is especially true of the individuality of our desire.
Love is at once an affirmation and a transcendence of who we are.
This is the first time in the history of humankind where we are trying to experience sexuality in the long term, not because we want 14 children, for which we need to have even more because many of th...