Barry Johnson, an expert on leadership who is the author of Polarity Management: Identifying and Managing Unsolvable Problems,
Armed with an ideology of love that advocates togetherness, we are awkward about pursuing autonomy. This is especially true of the individuality of our desire. Even couples who grant one another consi...
A couple’s emotional life together and their physical life together each have their ebbs and flows, their ups and downs, but these don’t always correspond. They intersect, they influence each other, b...
This is the first time in the history of humankind where we are trying to experience sexuality in the long term, not because we want 14 children, for which we need to have even more because many of th...
Sometimes they come sheepishly; sometimes they arrive desperate, dejected, enraged. They don’t just miss sex, the act; they miss the feeling of connection, playfulness, and renewal that sex allows the...
Q: Are there any secrets to long-lasting relationships? A: Infidelity. Not the act itself, but the threat of it. For Proust, an injection of jealousy is the only thing capable of rescuing a relati...
Oscar Wilde wrote, In this world there are only two tragedies. One is getting what one wants, and the other is not getting it. When
Now that these men and women and the generations who have followed can have as much sex as they want, they seem to have lost their desire for it.
Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness. One does not exist without the other. With too much distance, there can be no c...
Love is an exercise in selective perception, even a delicious deception as well, though who cares about that in the beginning?
Eroticism resides in the ambiguous space between anxiety and fascination.
Erotic intimacy is the revelation of our memories, wishes, fears, expectations, and struggles within a sexual relationship. When our innermost desires are revealed, and are met by our loved one with a...
Childhood has been sanctified so that it no longer seems ridiculous for one adult to sacrifice herself entirely in order to foster the flawless and painless development of her offspring—a one-person,...
As the adage says: If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.
Neutralizing each other’s complexity affords us a kind of manageable otherness.
Like dreams and works of art, fantasies are far more than what they appear to be on the surface. They’re complex psychic creations whose symbolic content mustn’t be translated into literal intent. Thi...
It takes courage to push yourself to places that you have never been before…to test your limits…to break through barriers. And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was mor...
In this world there are only two tragedies. One is getting what one wants, and the other is not getting it. When
I got rid of my motorcycle when Jimmy was born. I’m not allowed to die in a bike crash anymore.
His security rests not only on what Alice does but also on what she thinks. Her fantasies are proof of her freedom and separateness, and that