Knowledge can be acquired by education, reading, communicating and observing, but also simply by living.
In some ways, we will always be different. In other ways, we will always be the same. There is always room to disagree and blame, just as there is always room to take a new perspective and empathize....
Never express yourself more clearly than you are able to think.
Love yourself enough to give what matters every chance of working by communicating as well as you possibly can, and trying for as long as you wish.