The majority of shame researchers agree that the difference between shame and guilt is best understood as the differences between I am bad (shame) and I did something bad (guilt). Shame is about who w...
The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.
So much of what we hear today about courage is inflated and empty rhetoric that camouflages personal fears about one’s likability, ratings, and ability to maintain a level of comfort and status. We ne...
Show up for people in pain and don’t look away.
Of all the things trauma takes away from us, the worst is our willingness, or even our ability, to be vulnerable. There's a reclaiming that has to happen.
Nothing silences us more effectively than shame.
It is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful. —Brother David Steindl-Rast
I define a leader as anyone who takes responsibility for finding the potential in people and processes, and who has the courage to develop that potential.
Guilt and shame are both emotions of self-evaluation; however, that is where the similarities end. The majority of shame researchers agree that the difference between shame and guilt is best understoo...
Gratitude, therefore, emerged from the data as the antidote to foreboding joy.
Courage is like—it’s a habitus, a habit, a virtue: You get it by courageous acts. It’s like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging.
Comparison is the thief of happiness.
Choosing to be curious is choosing to be vulnerable because it requires us to surrender to uncertainty. It wasn’t always a choice; we were born curious. But over time, we learn that curiosity, like vu...
Cassandra Dahnke and Tomas Spath, write: Civility is claiming and caring for one’s identity, needs, and beliefs without degrading someone else’s in the process….[Civility] is about disagreeing without...
But this work has forced me to see that it's our fear of the unknown and our fear of being wrong that create most of our conflict and anxiety. We need both faith and reason to make meaning in an uncer...
As Anne Lamott said, Expectations are resentments waiting to happen. We have the tendency to visualize an entire scenario or conversation or outcome, and when things don’t go the way we’d imagined, di...
The only thing I know for sure after all of this research is that if you’re going to dare greatly, you’re going to get your ass kicked at some point. If you choose courage, you will absolutely know fa...
Wholehearted living is about engaging with our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion and connection to wake up in the morning and think, ‘No matter what gets d...
When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability. To be alive is to be vulnerable. —Madeleine L’Engle
When we spend our lives waiting until we’re perfect or bulletproof before we walk into the arena, we ultimately sacrifice relationships and opportunities that may not be recoverable, we squander our p...