People are opting out of vital conversations about diversity and inclusivity because they fear looking wrong, saying something wrong, or being wrong. Choosing our own comfort over hard conversations i...
Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we’ll ever do. I still believe in this quote from two of my previous books—maybe now more than ever. But I know that it...
Over the years I’ve learned that a surefooted and confident mapmaker does not a swift traveler make. I stumble and fall, and I constantly find myself needing to change course. And even though I’m tryi...
Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.
One of the biggest surprises in this research was learning that fitting in and belonging are not the same thing. In fact, fitting in is one of the greatest barriers to belonging. Fitting in is about a...
Of this, I am actually certain. After collecting thousands of stories, I’m willing to call this a fact: A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all women, men, and children. We ar...
I define a leader as anyone who takes responsibility for finding the potential in people and processes, and who has the courage to develop that potential.
Gratitude, therefore, emerged from the data as the antidote to foreboding joy.
Courage is like—it’s a habitus, a habit, a virtue: You get it by courageous acts. It’s like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn courage by couraging.
Belonging: Belonging is the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. Because this yearning is so primal, we often try to acquire it by fitting in and by seeking approval, which are...
Are you the adult that you want your child to grow up to be?
Who we are' is at least as important as 'what we want to achieve.
Yes, there can be no innovation, learning, or creativity without failure. But failing is painful. It fuels the shouldas and couldas, which means judgment and shame are often lying in wait
When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and hustle for our worthiness by...
When a group or community doesn’t tolerate dissent and disagreement, it forgoes any experience of inextricable connection. There is no true belonging, only an unspoken treaty to hate the same people....
Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.
Vulnerability is the last thing I want you to see in me, but the first thing I look for in you.
True belonging doesn't require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.
The imperfect book that gets published is better than the perfect book that never leaves my computer.
The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.