Speaking truth to bullshit and practicing civility start with knowing ourselves and knowing the behaviors and issues that both push into our own BS or get in the way of being civil. If we go back to B...
Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love and belonging.
People may call what happens at midlife a crisis, but it’s not. It’s an unraveling—a time when you feel a desperate pull to live the life you want to live, not the one you’re supposed to live. The unr...
On page 145, I defined belonging as the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. One of the biggest surprises in this research was learning that fitting in and belonging are not the...
Nothing serves as a better reminder of that than the immortal words of my friend Scott Stratten, author of UnMarketing: Don’t try to win over the haters; you’re not the jackass whisperer.
Knowledge is only a rumor until it lives in the muscle.
It’s not an accidental entanglement; it’s an intentional knot. Love belongs with belonging.
I'm not here so my business self can talk to their business selves. I'm here to talk from my hearts to their hearts.
Healthy striving is self-focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused: What will they think? Perfectionism is a hustle.
Generosity is not a free pass for people to take advantage of us, treat us unfairly, or be purposefully disrespectful and mean.
Bishop’s book tells the story of how we’ve geographically, politically, and even spiritually sorted ourselves into like-minded groups in which we silence dissent, grow more extreme in our thinking, an...
Yes, I agree with Tennyson, who wrote, ’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. But heartbreak knocks the wind out of you, and the feelings of loss and longing can make get...
When we go against the grain and put ourselves and our work out in the world, some people will feel threatened and they will go after what hurts the most—our appearance, our lovability, and even our p...
We risk missing out on joy when we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary.
The connection that we forge by judging and mocking others is not real connection,
Spiritual connection and engagement is not built on compliance, it’s the product of love, belonging, and vulnerability.
Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging.
Shame hates it when we reach out and tell our story. It hates having words wrapped around it- it can't survive being shared. Shame loves secrecy. When we bury our story, the shame metastasizes.
Perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life-paralysis.
Our culture teaches us about shame—it dictates what is acceptable and what is not. We weren’t born craving perfect bodies. We weren’t born afraid to tell our stories. We weren’t born with a fear of ge...