Our culture teaches us about shame—it dictates what is acceptable and what is not. We weren’t born craving perfect bodies. We weren’t born afraid to tell our stories. We weren’t born with a fear of ge...
Only when diverse perspectives are included, respected, and valued can we start to get a full picture of the world:
On page 145, I defined belonging as the innate human desire to be part of something larger than us. One of the biggest surprises in this research was learning that fitting in and belonging are not the...
Nothing serves as a better reminder of that than the immortal words of my friend Scott Stratten, author of UnMarketing: Don’t try to win over the haters; you’re not the jackass whisperer.
It’s not an accidental entanglement; it’s an intentional knot. Love belongs with belonging.
I'm not here so my business self can talk to their business selves. I'm here to talk from my hearts to their hearts.
Heroics is often about putting our life on the line. Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line. In today's world, that's pretty extraordinary.
Healthy striving is self-focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused: What will they think? Perfectionism is a hustle.
Dehumanizing and holding people accountable are mutually exclusive. Humiliation and dehumanizing are not accountability or social justice tools, they’re emotional off-loading at best, emotional self-i...
But what we know now is that when we deny our emotion, it owns us. When we own our emotion, we can rebuild and find our way through the pain.
Bishop’s book tells the story of how we’ve geographically, politically, and even spiritually sorted ourselves into like-minded groups in which we silence dissent, grow more extreme in our thinking, an...
Belonging so fully to yourself that you’re willing to stand alone is a wilderness—an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching.
Art has the power to render sorrow beautiful, make loneliness a shared experience, and transform despair into hope.
1. People Are Hard to Hate Close Up. Move In. 2. Speak Truth to Bullshit. Be Civil. 3. Hold Hands. With Strangers. 4. Strong Back. Soft Front. Wild Heart.
How often we all try to solve problems by doing more of what’s not working—just doing it harder, grinding it out longer. We’ll do anything to avoid the lowest of the low—self-examination.
Yes, I agree with Tennyson, who wrote, ’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. But heartbreak knocks the wind out of you, and the feelings of loss and longing can make get...
We are worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is.
The opposite of scarcity is not abundance; the opposite of scarcity is simply enough.
The most dangerous stories we make up are the narratives that diminish our inherent worthiness.
Speaking truth to bullshit and practicing civility start with knowing ourselves and knowing the behaviors and issues that both push into our own BS or get in the way of being civil. If we go back to B...