We know from myths and fairy tales that there are many different kinds of powers in this world. One child is given a light saber, another a wizard's education. The trick is not to amass all the differ...
The truth is that many schools are designed for extroverts.
The trick is not to amass all the different kinds of available power, but to use well the kind you’ve been granted.
So the next time you see a person with a compose face and a soft voice, remember that inside her mind she might be solving an equation, composing a sonnet, designing a hat. She might, that is, be depl...
Don't let anyone tell you that introverts are anti-social - we are just differently social.
In our society, the ideal self is bold, gregarious, and comfortable in the spotlight. We like to think that we value individuality, but mostly we admire the type of individual who's comfortable 'putti...
We need to do teacher training to educate them about what temperament means. Shyness is painful and you want to help a child with shyness - but the underlying temperament of being a careful, sensitive...
…introverts, who sometimes feel as if their propensity for problem talk makes them a drag, should know that they make it safe for others to get serious (239).
There is no such thing as a pure extrovert or a pure introvert. Such a man would be in the lunatic asylum.
The pressure to entertain, to sell ourselves, and never to be visibly anxious keeps ratcheting up.
The contrast is striking, writes Michael Harris Bond, a cross-cultural psychologist who focuses on China. The Americans emphasize sociability and prize those attributes that make for easy, cheerful as...
If fast and slow animals had parties, writes the evolutionary biologist David Sloan Wilson, some of the fasts would bore everyone with their loud conversation, while others would mutter into their bee...
We’re told that to be great is to be bold, to be happy is to be sociable. We see ourselves as a nation of extroverts—which means that we’ve lost sight of who we really are.
A widely held, but rarely articulated, belief in our society is that the ideal self is bold, alpha, gregarious. Introversion is viewed somewhere between disappointment and pathology.
In most job interviews, people say they are looking for people skills and emotional intelligence. That's reasonable, but the question is, how do you define what that looks like?
What psychologists call the need for intimacy is present in introverts and extroverts alike. In fact, people who value intimacy highly don’t tend to be, as the noted psychologist David Buss puts it, t...
We’re told that to be great is to be bold, to be happy is to be sociable. We
We live with a value system that I call the Extrovert Ideal—the omnipresent belief that the ideal self is gregarious, alpha, and comfortable in the spotlight. The archetypal extrovert prefers action t...
This teacher was kind and well-intentioned, but I wonder whether students like the young safety officer would be better off if we appreciated that not everyone to be a leader in the conventional sens...
There comes a time that people get tired of being trampled over by the iron feet of oppression,