“ In her book Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion, Carol Tavris recounts a story about a Bengali cobra that liked to bite passing villagers. One day a swami—a man who has achieved self-mastery—convinces th… Susan Cain
“ If you’re thinking in more complicated ways, she told me, then talking about the weather or where you went for the holidays is not quite as interesting as talking about values or morality. Susan Cain
“ If you like to do things in a slow and steady way, don’t let others make you feel as if you have to race. If you enjoy depth, don’t force yourself to seek breadth. If you prefer single-tasking to mult… Susan Cain
“ I worry that there are people who are put in positions of authority because they’re good talkers, but they don’t have good ideas, he Susan Cain
“ I think it’s our culture, explains Tiffany Liao, a poised Swarthmore-bound high school senior whose parents are from Taiwan. Study, do well, don’t create waves. It’s inbred in us to be more quiet. Whe… Susan Cain
“ I realize it’s not true that I’m no longer shy; I’ve just learned to talk myself down from the ledge (thank you, prefrontal cortex!). By now I do it so automatically that I’m hardly aware it’s happeni… Susan Cain
“ I learned to not worry so much about the outcome, but to concentrate on the step I was on and to try to do it as perfectly as I could when I was doing it. Susan Cain
“ How is it that Asians and Westerners can look at the exact same classroom interactions, and one group will label it class participation and the other talking nonsense? The Journal of Research in Perso… Susan Cain
“ His hypothesis was that extroverted leaders enhance group performance when employees are passive, but that introverted leaders are more effective with proactive employees. Susan Cain
“ Hans Eysenck once observed, introversion concentrates the mind on the tasks in hand, and prevents the dissipation of energy on social and sexual matters unrelated to work. In other words, if you’re in… Susan Cain
“ Fried asked hundreds of people (mostly designers, programmers, and writers) where they liked to work when they needed to get something done. He found that they went anywhere but their offices, which w… Susan Cain
“ For very different reasons, shy and introverted people might choose to spend their days in behind-the-scenes pursuits like inventing, or researching, or holding the hands of the gravely ill—or in lead… Susan Cain
“ For ten years, beginning in 2000, Fried asked hundreds of people (mostly designers, programmers, and writers) where they liked to work when they needed to get something done. He found that they went a… Susan Cain
“ Flow is an optimal state in which you feel totally engaged in an activity...In a state of flow, you're neither bored nor anxious, and you don't question your own adequacy. Hours pass without your noti… Susan Cain
“ First, when he looked closely at the existing studies on personality and leadership, he found that the correlation between extroversion and leadership was modest. Second, these studies were often base… Susan Cain
“ Extroverts are better than introverts at handling information overload. Introverts' reflectiveness uses up a lot of cognitive capacity, according to Joseph Newman. On any given task, he says, ''if we… Susan Cain
“ Everything in the service involved communication, he says with gentle exasperation. Greeting people, the lengthy sermon, the singing. There was no emphasis on quiet, liturgy, ritual, things that give… Susan Cain
“ Even T. S. Eliot’s famous 1915 poem The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock—in which he laments the need to prepare a face to meet the faces that you meet. Susan Cain
“ Do you really believe in what you said or wrote – in the thing that’s bringing criticism? And if I do believe it, I can withstand anything. Susan Cain
“ College students who tend to study alone learn more over time than those who work in groups. Even elite athletes in team sports often spend unusual amounts of time in solitary practice. What Susan Cain
