“ To ask whether it's nature or nurture, says Kagan, is like asking whether a blizzard is caused by temperature or humidity. It's the intricate interaction between the two that makes us who we are. Susan Cain
“ They listen more than they talk, think before they speak, and often feel as if they express themselves better in writing than in conversation. They tend to dislike conflict. Many have a horror of smal… Susan Cain
“ There are only a few people out there who can completely overcome their fears, and they all live in Tibet. Susan Cain
“ The Bus to Abilene anecdote reveals our tendency to follow those who initiate action—any action. We are similarly inclined to empower dynamic speakers. Susan Cain
“ The truth is that many schools are designed for extroverts. Introverts need different kinds of instruction from extroverts, write College of William and Mary education scholars Jill Burruss and Lisa K… Susan Cain
“ The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances; if there is any reaction, both are transformed. —CARL JUNG Susan Cain
“ The authors whose books get published - once accepted as a reclusive breed - are now vetted by publicists to make sure they're talk-show ready. Susan Cain
“ Studies have shown that performance gets worse as group size increases: groups of nine generate fewer and poorer ideas compared to groups of six, which do worse than groups of four. The evidence from… Susan Cain
“ Stay true to your own nature. If you like to do things in a slow and steady way, don't let others make you feel as if you have to race. If you enjoy depth, don't force yourself to seek breadth. Susan Cain
“ Some animals naturally carry shelter everywhere they go, and that some humans are just the same Susan Cain
“ She also knows full well that shy is a negative word in our society. Above all, do not shame her for her shyness. Susan Cain
“ Restraint, Gandhi believed, was one of his greatest assets. And it was born of his shyness: I have naturally formed the habit of restraining my thoughts. A thoughtless word hardly ever escaped my tong… Susan Cain
“ Pay attention to what you envy. Jealousy is an ugly emotion, but it tells the truth. You mostly envy those who have what you desire. Susan Cain
“ Osborn’s theory had great impact, and company leaders took up brainstorming with enthusiasm. To this day, it’s common for anyone who spends time in corporate America to find himself occasionally coope… Susan Cain
“ Nor are introverts necessarily shy. Shyness is the fear of social disapproval or humiliation, while introversion is a preference for environments that are not overstimulating. Shyness is inherently pa… Susan Cain
“ Introverts often work more slowly and deliberately. They like to focus on one task at a time and can have mighty powers of concentration. They’re relatively immune to the lures of wealth and fame. Susan Cain
“ Introverts feel just right with less stimulation, as when they sip wine with a close friend, solve a crossword puzzle, or read a book. Extroverts enjoy the extra bang that comes from activities like m… Susan Cain
“ Introverts are not smarter than extroverts. According to IQ scores, the two types are equally intelligent. And on many kinds of tasks, particularly those performed under time or social pressure or inv… Susan Cain
“ In couples where the man is introverted and the woman extroverted, as with Sarah and Bob, we often mistake personality conflicts for gender difference, Susan Cain
