“ Love is essential; gregariousness is optional. Cherish your nearest and dearest. Work with colleagues you like and respect. Scan new acquaintances for those who might fall into the former categories o… Susan Cain
“ Kuhnen and Brian Knutson have found that men who are shown erotic pictures just before they gamble take more risks than those shown neutral images like desks and chairs. This is because anticipating r… Susan Cain
“ It can be hard for extroverts to understand how badly introverts need to recharge at the end of a busy day. Susan Cain
“ In fact, some scientists are starting to explore the idea that reward-sensitivity is not only an interesting feature of extroversion; it is what makes an extrovert an extrovert. Extroverts, in other w… Susan Cain
“ If you’re a teacher, enjoy your gregarious and participatory students. But don’t forget to cultivate the shy, the gentle, the autonomous, the ones with single-minded enthusiasms for chemistry sets or… Susan Cain
“ I am a horse for a single harness, not cut out for tandem or teamwork … for well I know that in order to attain any definite goal, it is imperative that one person do the thinking and the commanding.… Susan Cain
“ Here's a rule of thumb for networking events: one new honest-to-goodness relationship is worth ten fistfuls of business cards. Rush home afterward and kick back on your sofa. Carve out restorative nic… Susan Cain
“ Extroversion is an enormously appealing personality style, but we’ve turned it into an oppressive standard to which most of us feel we must conform. Susan Cain
“ Ericsson wondered what had happened. I really thought about this a lot, he recalls in an interview with Daniel Coyle, author of The Talent Code. Susan Cain
“ Caucasians, he said, seem to be less afraid of other people thinking that what they said was too loud or too stupid. Susan Cain
“ Assumes that it’s good to accentuate positive emotions, but that isn’t correct, the psychology professor Richard Howard told me, pointing to the example of soccer victories that end in violence and pr… Susan Cain
“ Am a horse for a single harness, not cut out for tandem or teamwork … for well I know that in order to attain any definite goal, it is imperative that one person do the thinking and the commanding. —A… Susan Cain
“ Also why exhortations to imagine the audience in the nude don’t help nervous speakers; naked lions are just as dangerous as elegantly dressed ones. Susan Cain
“ Would she have enjoyed a more natural parent-child fit if she’d been an introvert herself? Not necessarily. Introverted parents can face challenges of their own. Sometimes painful childhood memories c… Susan Cain
“ Whoever you are, bear in mind that appearance is not reality. Some people act like extroverts, but the effort costs them energy, authenticity, and even physical health. Others seem aloof or self-conta… Susan Cain
“ We’re best off when we don’t allow ourselves to go to our angry place. Amazingly, neuroscientists have even found that people who use Botox, which prevents them from making angry faces, seem to be les… Susan Cain
“ We don’t ask why God chose as his prophet a stutterer with a public speaking phobia. But we should. The book of Exodus is short on explication, but its stories suggest that introversion plays yin to t… Susan Cain
“ We consume indie music and films, and generate our own online content. We think different (even if we got the idea from Apple Computer’s famous ad campaign). Susan Cain
