When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated, and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even bette...
When a man helps a colleague, the recipient feels indebted to him and is highly likely to return the favor. But when a woman helps out, the feeling of indebtedness is weaker. She’s communal, right? Sh...
When a kid struggles at math, instead of saying, Maybe math isn’t one of your strengths, Dweck recommends, The feeling of math being hard is the feeling of your brain growing.
We hold ourselves back not just out of fear of seeming too aggressive but also by underestimating our abilities. Ask a woman to explain why she’s successful and she’ll credit luck, hard work, and help...
We can start by helping children develop four core beliefs: (1) they have some control over their lives; (2) they can learn from failure; (3) they matter as human beings; and (4) they have real streng...
To quote the Roman philosopher Seneca (and the song Closing Time): Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.
This phenomenon of capable people being plagued by self-doubt has a name---the impostor syndrome.
This is the second worst moment of our lives. We lived through the first and we will live through this. It can only get better from here.
These aren’t personal questions. They are human questions,
There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women.
The promise of equality is not the same as true equality. A
The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any. Do not wait for power to be offered. Like that tiara, it might never materialize. And anyway, who wears a tiara on a...
The more satisfied a person is with her position, the less likely she is to leave.3 So the irony—and, to me, the tragedy—is that women wind up leaving the workforce precisely because of things they di...
The loop in your head repeats, It’s my fault this is awful. My whole life is awful. And it’s always going to be awful.
The classic scenario unfolds like this. An ambitious and successful woman heads down a challenging career path with the thought of having children in the back of her mind. At some point, this thought...
The beauty of the impostor syndrome is you vacillate between extreme egomania, and a complete feeling of: ‘I’m a fraud! Oh god, they’re on to me! I’m a fraud!
That’s the thing about faith…it helps you know that sooner or later this too shall pass.
Survivor guilt is a thief of joy—yet another secondary loss from death.
Staying quiet and fitting in may have been all the first generations of women who entered corporate America could do; in some cases, it might still be the safest path. But this strategy is not paying...
Some girls like superheroes, some girls like princesses. Some boys like superheroes, some boys like princesses. So why do all the girls have to buy pink stuff and all the boys have to buy different co...