Dr. Peggy McIntosh from the Wellesley Centers for Women, gave a talk called Feeling Like a Fraud.1 She explained that many people, but especially women, feel fraudulent when they are praised for their...
But instead of blaming women for not negotiating more, we need to recognize that women often have good cause to be reluctant to advocate for their own interests because doing so can easily backfire.
But in my professional life, I have learned to accept uncertainty and even embrace it.
As the graduates were called to the stage to collect their diplomas, I shook every hand. Many stopped to give me a hug. One young woman even told me I was the baddest bitch (which, having checked with...
As activist Marlo Thomas wryly joked on Equal Pay Day 2011, Forty years and eighteen cents. A dozen eggs have gone up ten times that amount.11
Are you my mentor? If someone has to ask the question, the answer is probably no. When someone finds the right mentor, it is obvious. The question becomes a statement.
Anyone who wants her mate to be a true partner must treat him as an equal—and equally capable—partner. And if that’s not reason enough, bear in mind that a study found that wives who engage in gatekee...
All over the world, there is cultural pressure to conceal negative emotions. In China and Japan, the ideal emotional state is calm and composed.10 In the United States, we like excitement (OMG!) and e...
A feminist is someone who believes in social, political, and economic equality of the sexes.
If you ask men why they did a good job, they'll say, 'I'm awesome. Obviously. Why are you even asking?' If you ask women why they did a good job, what they'll say is someone helped them, they got luck...
When something terrible happens, it can be important to consider how things could be worse.
Spend more time comforting and hugging infant girls and more time watching infant boys play by themselves.22 Other cultural messages are more blatant. Gymboree once sold onesies proclaiming Smart like...
Past my own feelings of guilt and insecurity, I feel grateful. These parents—mostly mothers—constitute a large amount of
Hold ourselves back in ways both big and small, by lacking self-confidence, by not raising our hands, and by pulling back when we should be leaning in. We internalize the negative messages we get thro...
Finding God or a higher power reminds us that we are not the center of the universe. There is much we don’t understand about human existence, and there is order and purpose to it anyway. It helps us f...
Women provide more than twice as much care not only for their own parents, but for their in-laws as well.
Women need to shift from thinking I’m not ready to do that to thinking I want to do that—and I’ll learn by doing it. My
Women need to shift from thinking I'm not ready to do that to thinking I want to do that--and I'll learn by doing it.
When someone isn’t making good decisions, few have the guts to tell that person, especially if that person is the boss. One
When negotiating, Think personally, act communally. I have advised many women to preface negotiations by explaining that they know that women often get paid less than men so they are going to negotiat...