Henry Cloud Quote
When we ask we are owning our needs. Asking for love, comfort or understanding is a transaction between two people. You are saying: I have a need. It's not your problem. It's not your responsibility. You don't have to respond, but I'd like something from you. This frees the other person to connect with you freely and without obligation. When we own that our needs are our responsibility we allow others to love us because we have something to offer. Asking is a far cry from demanding. When we demand love, we destroy it.
Henry Cloud
When we ask we are owning our needs. Asking for love, comfort or understanding is a transaction between two people. You are saying: I have a need. It's not your problem. It's not your responsibility. You don't have to respond, but I'd like something from you. This frees the other person to connect with you freely and without obligation. When we own that our needs are our responsibility we allow others to love us because we have something to offer. Asking is a far cry from demanding. When we demand love, we destroy it.
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About Henry Cloud
Henry Cloud (born 1956) is an American Christian self-help author. Cloud co-authored Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life in 1992 which sold two million copies and evolved into a five-part series.
Cloud is president of Cloud-Townsend Resources and runs a private practice with his partner, John Townsend in Newport Beach, California. Cloud and Townsend formerly co-directed the Minirth-Meier Clinic West in the same area of Orange County. Cloud has a BS in psychology with honors from Southern Methodist University and a PhD in clinical psychology from Biola University (1987). He also took classes from Talbot Theological Seminary.
Cloud is president of Cloud-Townsend Resources and runs a private practice with his partner, John Townsend in Newport Beach, California. Cloud and Townsend formerly co-directed the Minirth-Meier Clinic West in the same area of Orange County. Cloud has a BS in psychology with honors from Southern Methodist University and a PhD in clinical psychology from Biola University (1987). He also took classes from Talbot Theological Seminary.