When I went on to write my next book, Working With Emotional Intelligence, I wanted to make a business case that the best performers were those people strong in these skills.
But once you are in that field, emotional intelligence emerges as a much stronger predictor of who will be most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines h...
Life is a comedy for those who think and a tragedy for those who feel.
Emotional intelligence begins to develop in the earliest years. All the small exchanges children have with their parents, teachers, and with each other carry emotional messages.
The hippocampus is crucial in recognizing a face as that of your cousin. But it is the amygdala that adds you don't really like her.
THE SEAT OF ALL PASSION
Shapes those feelings.
Emotional aptitude is a meta-ability, determining how well we can use whatever other skills we have, including raw intellect.
There is much to be said for the constructive contribution of suffering to creative and spiritual life; suffering can temper the soul.
The single most important factor in maximizing the excellence of a group’s product was the degree to which the members were able to create a state of internal harmony, which lets them take advantage o...
Ordinarily, small children learn much about emotions by looking at the other person’s eyes, while those with autism avoid the eyes and so fail to get those lessons.
Not that leaders need to be overly nice; the emotional art of leadership includes pressing the reality of work demands without unduly upsetting people.
Knowing one’s emotions. Self-awareness—recognizing a feeling as it happens—is the keystone of emotional intelligence. As we will see in Chapter 4, the ability to monitor feelings from moment to moment...
Las emociones perturbadoras y las relaciones tóxicas han sido identificadas como factores de riesgo que favorecen la aparición de algunas enfermedades.
[Sharmayne Williams:]...puoi avere tutte le emozioni possibili, ma non devi permettere che siano loro a manovrarti.
To know that a person is a valedictorian is to know only that he or she is exceedingly good at achievement as measured by grades. It tells you nothing about how they react to the vicissitudes of life....
The most powerful form of nondefensive listening, of course, is empathy: actually hearing the feelings behind what is being said.
The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant, Albert Einstein
Psychologists use the rather ponderous term metacognition to refer to an awareness of thought process, and metamood to mean awareness of one’s own emotions. I prefer the term self-awareness, in the se...
Mindfulness helps especially for those of us for whom every setback, hurt or dissapointment creates endless cascades of rumination