When Ifemelu met Obinze, she told Aunty Uju that she had met the love of her life, and Aunty Uju told her to let him kiss and touch but not to let him put it inside
When I started in real estate, I considered renovating old houses instead of tearing them down, but it didn’t make sense. Nigerians don’t buy houses because they’re old. A renovated two-hundred-year-o...
What is the point of culture? Culture functions ultimately to ensure the preservation and continuity of a people.
What if both boys and girls were raised not to link masculinity and money? What if their attitude was not the boy has to pay, but rather, whoever has more should pay.
We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way boys are. If we have sons, we don’t mind knowing about their girlfriends. But our daughters’ boyfriends? God forbif. (But we of course expec...
We teach females that in relationships, compromise is what a woman is more likely to do.
Waugh is the best of them. Brideshead is the
They ticked the boxes of a certain kind of enlightened, educated middle-classness, the love of dresses that were more interesting than pretty, the love of the eclectic, the love of what they were supp...
They mimicked what Americans told them: You speak such good English. How bad is AIDS in your country? It’s so sad that people live on less than a dollar a day in Africa.
There were people who were born with an inability to be tangled up in dark emotions, in complications, and Iloba was one of them. For such people, Obinze felt both admiration and boredom.
There was something wrong with her. She did not know what it was but there was something wrong with her. A hunger, a restlessness. An incomplete knowledge of herself. The sense of something farther aw...
There was a stripped-down quality to her life, a kindling starkness, without parents and friends and home, the familiar landmarks that made her who she was.
There must be more than male benevolence as the basis for a woman’s well-being. Feminism Lite uses the language of allowing.
There are slightly more women than men in the world—52 percent of the world’s population is female—but most of the positions of power and prestige are occupied by men. The late Kenyan Nobel peace laur...
The value we give to Mrs. means that marriage changes the social status of a woman bur not that of a man.
The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing who we are.
The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t h...
Teach her that if you criticize X in women but do not criticize X in men, then you do not have a problem with X, you have a problem with women.
Teach about difference. Make difference ordinary.
Sometimes, mothers, so conditioned to be all and do all, are complicit in diminishing the role of fathers.