If we do something over and over, it becomes normal.
If she likes makeup, let her wear it. If she likes fashion, let her dress up. But if she doesn’t like either, let her be. Don’t think that raising her feminist means forcing her to reject femininity....
I have chosen to no longer be apologetic for my femaleness and my femininity. And I want to be respected in all of my femaleness because I deserve to be.
I can’t believe it. My president is black like me. She read the text a few times, her eyes filling with tears. On
Há alguns meses, ele escreveu dizendo que não queria que eu ficasse procurando os porquês, pois há certas coisas que acontecem e para as quais não podemos formular um porquê, para as quais os porquês...
How easy it was to lie to strangers, to create with strangers the versions of our lives we imagined.
Ginika told her that ‘fat’ in America was a bad word, heaving with moral judgement like ‘stupid’ or ‘bastard,’ and not a mere description liked ‘short’ or ‘tall.’ So, she had banished the word ‘fat’ f...
Everything is about them now. One day they will be grown and leave home and you will just be a source of embarrassment or exasperation for them and they won’t take your phone calls or won’t call you f...
Even at ten you knew that some people can take up too much space by simply being, that by existing, some people can stifle others.
De kennis van koken is niet van tevoren geïnstalleerd in de vagina.
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But by far the worst thing we do to males – by making them feel they have to be hard – is that we leave them with very fragile egos. The harder a man feels compelled to be, the weaker his ego is. And...
Be deliberate also about showing her the enduring beauty and resilience of Africans and of black people. Why? Because of the power dynamics in the world, she will grow up seeing images of white beauty...
Anyway, since feminism was un-African, I decided I would now call myself a Happy African Feminist. Then a dear friend told me that calling myself a feminist meant that I hated men. So I decided I woul...
To earn the prize of being taken seriously among Nigerians in America, among Africans in America, indeed among immigrants in America, she needed more years.
This man who ate her apple cores and turned even that into something of a moral act.
Maybe it’s time to just scrap the word racist. Find something new. Like Racial Disorder Syndrome. And we could have different categories for sufferers of this syndrome: mild, medium, and acute. CHAPTE...
His own will always be seen as different
Yes, we’re really about excess in this country,
Why did people ask What is it about? as if a novel had to be about only one thing.