Many people think of perfectionism as striving to be your best, but it is not about self-improvement; it's about earning approval and acceptance.
If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people's choices. If I feel good about my body, I don't go around making fun of other people's weight or appearance. We're hard o...
Build a culture of trust.
When we’re kind to ourselves, we create a reservoir of compassion that we can extend to others. Our children learn how to be self-compassionate by watching us, and the people around us feel free to be...
What we know matters, but who we are matters more.
We’re all grateful for people who write and speak in ways that help us remember that we’re not alone.
We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.
This notion that the leader needs to be in charge and to know all the answers is both dated and destructive. Its impact on others is the sense that they know less, and that they are less than. A recip...
There will be times when standing alone feels too hard, too scary, and we’ll doubt our ability to make our way through the uncertainty. Someone, somewhere, will say, Don’t do it. You don’t have what i...
There is no intimacy without vulnerability. Yet another powerful example of vulnerability as courage.
The secret killer of innovation is shame. You can’t measure it, but it is there. Every time someone holds back on a new idea, fails to give their manager much needed feedback, and is afraid to speak u...
The problem is, when we stop caring what people think and stop feeling hurt by cruelty, we lose our ability to connect. But when we’re defined by what people think, we lose the courage to be vulnerabl...
The opposite of never enough isn’t abundance or more than you could ever imagine. The opposite of scarcity is enough, or what I call Wholeheartedness.
The opposite of play is not work—the opposite of play is depression. He explains, Respecting our biologically programmed need for play can transform work. It can bring back excitement and newness to o...
Rumbling with Trust Trust—in ourselves and in others—is often the first casualty in a fall, and stories of shattered trust can render us speechless with hurt or send us into a defensive silence. Maybe...
Rising strong after a fall is how we cultivate wholeheartedness in our lives; it’s the process that teaches us the most about who we are.
Personally, I have learned that when I'm experiencing shame, I often act out in ways that are inconsistent with who I want to be.
Perfectionism is not abut healthy achievement and growth. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and...
Perfectionism didn’t lead to results. It led to peanut butter.
Just because we’re plugged in, doesn’t mean we feel seen and heard. In fact, hyper-communication can mean we spend more time on Facebook than we do face-to-face with the people we care about. I can’t...