Bullshit is a greater enemy of the truth than lies are.Harry G. Frankfurt, Professor Emeritus, Yale University(From his book, On Bullshit)
Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.
When we own our stories, we avoid being trapped as characters in stories someone else is telling.
What starts as a small disagreement about an unimportant issue becomes a fight over wrongly assigned intentions and hurt feelings.
What I've learned through my work and what I heard that night in Newtown makes one thing clear: Not enough of us know how to sit in pain with others. Worse, our discomfort shows up in ways that can hu...
There is no intimacy without vulnerability.
The problem is that when we don’t care at all what people think and we’re immune to hurt, we’re also ineffective at connecting. Courage is telling our story, not being immune to criticism. Staying vul...
Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from taking flight.
One of the most profound responses to this exercise came out of a focus group I did with a group of leaders at West Point. One officer pushed me a little on the accuracy of the intel and kept asking,...
Now I understand that in order to feel a true sense of belonging, I need to bring the real me to the table and that I can only do that if I’m practicing self-love. For years I thought it was the other...
Just because someone isn’t willing or able to love us, it doesn’t mean that we are unlovable.
I’m not perfect and I’m not always right, but I’m here, open, paying attention, loving you, and fully engaged.
I was not prepared to hear over and over from men how the women—the mothers, sisters, girlfriends, wives—in their lives are constantly criticizing them for not being open and vulnerable and intimate,...
I assumed that people weren't doing their best so I judged them and constantly fought being disappointed, which was easier than setting boundaries. Boundaries are hard when you want to be liked and wh...
Here’s how I see the progression of my work: The Gifts of Imperfection—Be you. Daring Greatly—Be all in. Rising Strong—Fall. Get up. Try again.
For me, vulnerability led to anxiety, which led to shame, which led to disconnection, which led to Bud Light.
Don’t squander joy.
Because we are compelled to make stories, we are often compelled to take incomplete stories and run with them.
The best marriages are the ones where we can go out in the world and really put ourselves out there. A lot of times we'll fail, and sometimes we'll pull it off. But good marriages are when you can go...
Shame is the most powerful, master emotion. It's the fear that we're not good enough.