Maintaining connections with family and community across class boundaries demands more than just summary recall of where one’s roots are, where one comes from. It requires knowing, naming, and being e...
Lying has become so much the accepted norm that people lie even when it would be simpler to tell the truth.
Love is profoundly political. Our deepest revolution will come when we understand this truth.
Imagine living in a world where there is no domination, where females and males are not alike or even always equal, but where a vision of mutuality is the ethos shaping our interaction. Imagine living...
If men were socialized to desire love as much as they are taught to desire sex, we would see a cultural revolution.
If any female feels she need anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency.
I want there to be a place in the world where people can engage in one another’s differences in a way that is redemptive, full of hope and possibility. Not this In order to love you, I must make you s...
Fluidity means that our black identities are constantly changing as we respond to circumstances in our families and communities of origin, and as we interact with a wider world.
Females of all ages acted as though concern for or rage at male domination or gender equality was all that was needed to make one a feminist. Without confronting internalized sexism women who picked u...
Concurrently, the growing class power and public voice of conservative and liberal well-to-do black folks easily obscures the class cruelty these individuals enact both in the way they talk about unde...
At times women find it difficult to hear what men have to say when what they tell us does not conform to our fantasies of who they are or who we want them to be.
All too often we think of community in terms of being with folks like ourselves: the same class, same race, same ethnicity, same social standing and the like..I think we need to be wary: we need to wo...
A vision of cultural homogeneity that seeks to deflect attention away from or even excuse the oppressive, dehumanizing impact of white supremacy on the lives of black people by suggesting black people...
No other group in America has so had their identity socialized out of existence as have black women... When black people are talked about the focus tends to be on black men and when women are talked a...
Death is with you all the time you get deeper in it as you move towards it, but it's not unfamiliar to you. It's always been there, so what becomes unfamiliar to you when you pass away from the moment...
Young people are cynical about love. Ultimately, cynicism is the great mask of the disappointed and betrayed heart.
Whether we learn how to love ourselves and others will depend on the presence of a loving environment. Self-love cannot flourish in isolation.
When men and women are loyal to ourselves and others, when we love justice, we understand fully the myriad ways in which lying diminishes and erodes the possibility of meaningful, caring connection, t...
Trusting that another person always intends your good, having a core foundation of loving practice, cannot exist within a context of deception.
To love somebody is not just a strong feeling - it's a decision, it's a judgement, it's a promise.