Be open about your thoughts, ideas, and desires and you will be right with your decisions.
When someone has been mean to you, why would you want to be good to them?' 'You wouldn't want to. That's what makes it hard. You do it anyway. Being good is hard. Much harder than being bad.
A sacrifice is not about expecting God to break the bond you have with another person. You make the sacrifice on your own because God is more important than the bond.
Don't do the right thing for the wrong reasons. It is the "why" that keeps us committed to our choices and defines our character.