Developing humans has nothing to do with developing their skills. Developing humans is about getting them in connection with their primitiveness and what their Instinct guide them to what they should...
Growing a culture requires a good storyteller. Changing a culture requires a persuasive editor.
When she tells you her problems she is not moaning, she trusts you.
Each creature is a unique piece of art to be respected and believed in. once we realise this, equality follows.