The pain you feel is simply because you do not yet have the strength to forgive. But you will grow strong again, that is for sure.
As human beings, we are custom made to be happy. Why then would we want to change the order of things by not being happy?
The practice of forgiving is a sequential practice that begins with excusing someone.
You are not, though, forgiving so as to let others off with things. You are forgiving so that you can empower yourself to get over it and become strong.
What you have suffered after you have healed will make perfect sense.
The pain you have gone through will give you the strength of character to come through it all, so long as you learn from what you have suffered then it was not suffering at all.
Pain can cause us to learn no end of lessons, but without resolution there can be no healing!
You can learn to heal yourself, learn to understand that the pain you feel today is the strength you feel tomorrow!
We invent what we need to get us by, but in doing so we are really continuing to hold on to the pain of yesterday.
This pain you are avoiding is a very necessary pain that will make you strong again.
Before making a snap judgment, ask yourself if it really is something that has hurt you or simply just made you angry at yourself for allowing it to happen. It’s amazing what ‘sleeping on it’ can do....
Do not allow yourself to be pulled into the role of embracing victimship as some sort of badge of honor to wear or flash around at any opportunity.
The world is full of victims; don’t add to the growing culture of “I’ve a story to tell”, well not unless it’s a story to help others overcome situations or as a warning.
The truth is, forgiving is a rather simple concept to grasp. It is often imagined that when you forgive, you have to reconcile with someone and yet this is a larger team in which forgiveness is just a...
Remember, forgiveness is not a millstone but a milestone!
Do not be deceived that you are weak because you have forgiven; instead be rest assured that you are now showing great strength - after all, forgiving is one of the most difficult things to do.
The most basic method one can use to let go of the past is by looking at it as a learning experience.
Forgiveness does carry with it numerous obstacles and one may well be surprised why many people find it a very difficult hurdle to jump over.
If we studied the issue of forgiveness with a wider perspective, we are bound to opt for it after all.
The moment we see beyond our personal desires to be felt sympathy for, that is the time we can actually start the journey to that final destination of true forgiveness.
