Imagine how much better you’ll be at this sweet-spot game once you’re aware of playing it. You can set up your work, your hobbies, and your social life so that you spend as much time inside your sweet...
If you’re that rare engineer who’s an inventor and also an artist, I’m going to give you some advice that might be hard to take. That advice is: Work alone. You’re going to be best able to design revo...
If you’re a manager, remember that one third to one half of your workforce is probably introverted, whether they appear that way or not. Think twice about how you design your organization’s office spa...
If you want your child to learn these skills, don’t let her hear you call her shy: she’ll believe the label and experience her nervousness as a fixed trait rather than an emotion she can control. She...
If you like to do things in a slow and steady way, don’t let others make you feel as if you have to race. If you enjoy depth, don’t force yourself to seek breadth. If you prefer single-tasking to mult...
If a high-reactive toddler breaks another child's toy by mistake, studies show, she often experiences a more intense mix of guilt and sorrow than a lower-reactive child would. ...but high-reactive kid...
I worry that there are people who are put in positions of authority because they’re good talkers, but they don’t have good ideas, he
I worry that there are people who are put in positions of authority because they're good talkers, but they don't have good ideas. It's so easy to confuse schmoozing ability with talent. Someone seems...
How to Win Friends and Influence People is full of chapter titles like Making People Glad to Do What You Want and How to Make People Like You Instantly. All of which raises the question, how did we go...
How is it that Asians and Westerners can look at the exact same classroom interactions, and one group will label it class participation and the other talking nonsense? The Journal of Research in Perso...
Highly sensitive people tend to be keen observers who look before they leap. They arrange their lives in ways that limit surprises. They're often sensitive to sights, sounds, smells, pain, coffee. The...
Highly sensitive people also process information about their environments—both physical and emotional—unusually deeply. They tend to notice subtleties that others miss—another person’s shift in mood,...
Her idea of a perfect start to the weekend is a quiet evening at the movies, just her and Greg.
He also suggests No-Talk Thursdays, one day a week in which employees aren’t allowed to speak to each other.
He also suffered from a certain amount of what he calls reputational confusion, in which he became known for being over-the-top effervescent, and the reputation fed on itself. This was the persona tha...
Hans Eysenck once observed, introversion concentrates the mind on the tasks in hand, and prevents the dissipation of energy on social and sexual matters unrelated to work. In other words, if you’re in...
Greg and Emily are an example of an introvert-extrovert couple who love and madden each other in equal measure. Greg, who just turned thirty, has a bounding gait, a mop of dark hair continually fallin...
Fried asked hundreds of people (mostly designers, programmers, and writers) where they liked to work when they needed to get something done. He found that they went anywhere but their offices, which w...
For very different reasons, shy and introverted people might choose to spend their days in behind-the-scenes pursuits like inventing, or researching, or holding the hands of the gravely ill—or in lead...
For ten years, beginning in 2000, Fried asked hundreds of people (mostly designers, programmers, and writers) where they liked to work when they needed to get something done. He found that they went a...