It makes sense that so many introverts hide even from themselves. We live with a value system that I call the Extrovert Ideal—the omnipresent belief that the ideal self is gregarious, alpha, and comfo...
It can be hard for extroverts to understand how badly introverts need to recharge at the end of a busy day. We all empathize with a sleep-deprived mate who comes home from work too tired to talk, but...
Introverts often work more slowly and deliberately. They like to focus on one task at a time and can have mighty powers of concentration. They’re relatively immune to the lures of wealth and fame.
Introverts need to trust their gut and share their ideas as powerfully as they can. This does not mean aping extroverts; ideas can be shared quietly, they can be communicated in writing, they can be p...
Introverts living under the Extrovert Ideal are like women in a man’s world,
Introverts have wide-open information channels, causing them to be flooded with stimulation and over-aroused, while extroverts have tighter channels, making them prone to under-arousal. Over-arousal d...
In our culture, guilt is a tainted word, but it’s probably one of the building blocks of conscience. The anxiety these highly sensitive toddlers feel upon apparently breaking the toy gives them the mo...
If you’re thinking in more complicated ways, she told me, then talking about the weather or where you went for the holidays is not quite as interesting as talking about values or morality.
If you’re an introvert, you also know that the bias against quiet can cause deep psychic pain.
If your child prefers to work autonomously and socialize one-on-one, there’s nothing wrong with her; she just happens not to fit the prevailing model. The purpose of school should be to prepare kids f...
If you force extroverts to pause, says Newman, they’ll do just as well as introverts at the numbers game.
Enjoyment appears at the boundary between boredom and anxiety, when the challenges are just balanced with the person’s capacity to act. —MIHALY CSIKSZENTMIHALYI
Caucasians, he said, seem to be less afraid of other people thinking that what they said was too loud or too stupid.
By the time I was old enough to figure out that I was simply introverted, it was a part of my being, the assumption that there is something inherently wrong with me. I wish I could find that little ve...
But it turned out that this unlearning was not as complete as the scientists first thought. When they severed the neural connections between the rats’ cortex and amygdala, the rats became afraid of th...
Another study, of 38,000 knowledge workers across different sectors, found that the simple act of being interrupted is one of the biggest barriers to productivity.
And it suggests, says Jadzia Jagiellowicz, the lead scientist at Stony Brook, that sensitive types think in an unusually complex fashion. It may also help explain why they’re so bored by small talk. I...
All of which raises the question, how did we go from Character to Personality without realizing that we had sacrificed something meaningful along the way?
A martial arts instructor named Lateesha was first up that evening. Lateesha’s assignment was to read aloud to the class from a Robert Frost poem. With her dreadlocks and wide smile, Lateesha looked a...
الأنطوائيون , في المقابل , ربما لديهم مهارات أجتماعية قوية ويتمتعون باللقاء في الحفلات والاعمال , لكن بعد حين يرغبون لو كانوا في قمصان النوم في بيوتهم . أنهم يفضلون تكريس طاقتهم الاجتماعية لأصدقائهم ا...