Personal connections lead to assignments and promotions, so it needs to be okay for men and women to spend informal time together the same way men can. A senior man and a junior man at a bar is seen a...
One of the immediate questions new parents face is who will provide primary care for a child. The historical choice has been the mother. Breast-feeding alone has made this both the logical and the bio...
One night, encouraged by the male partners, I puffed away on a cigar—just one of the guys. Except that the smoking nauseated me and I reeked of cigar smoke for days. If that was fitting in, I stuck ou...
One day she woke up and understood we are all in this together.
Often without even realizing it, the woman stops reaching for new opportunities. If any are presented to her, she is likely to decline or offer the kind of hesitant yes that gets the project assigned...
Moral elevation describes the feeling of being uplifted by an act of uncommon goodness. Elevation brings out what Abraham Lincoln called the better angels of our nature. Even in the face of atrocity,...
Men are allowed to be focused on their own achievements, while loyalty is expected from women.
Major changes can result from these kinds of nudge techniques, small interventions that encourage people to behave in slightly different ways at critical moments.4
In sports, taking suggestions from a coach is the whole point of practice. Adam traces his openness to feedback to his past as a Junior Olympic diver. Criticism was the only way to get better.
In China, women who are single past the age of twenty-seven are stigmatized as sheng nu, or leftover women. They face severe pressure from their families to marry, stemming from the widespread belief...
If you do please everyone, you aren't making enough progress.
If women want to succeed more at work and if men want to succeed more at home, these expectations have to be challenged. As Gloria Steinem once observed, It's not about biology, but about consciousnes...
If we want a world with greater equality, we need to acknowledge that women are less likely to keep their hands up. We need institutions and individuals to notice and correct for this behavior by enco...
If we push hard now, this next wave can be the last wave. In the future, there will be no female leaders. There will just be leaders
I understood the power of the prayer Let me not die while I am still alive.
I promise I will raise your children as Vikings fans even though I know nothing about football and I’m pretty sure that team never wins.
I learned that friendship isn’t only what you can give, it’s what you’re able to receive.
Free to Be . . . You and Me
Feeling threatened by others' choices pulls us all down. Instead, we should funnel our energy into breaking this cycle.
Everyone needs to get more comfortable with female leaders—including female leaders themselves.