Live with integrity, respect the rights of other people, and follow your own bliss.
If my aim is to prove I am enough, the project goes on to infinity—because the battle was already lost on the day I conceded the issue was debatable.
It sounded, I told him, as if he had never learned to balance projecting goals into the future with appreciating and living in the present....To the extent that our goal is to "prove" ourselves or war...
A bully hides his fears with fake bravado. That is the opposite of self-assertiveness.
There is overwhelming evidence that the higher the level of self-esteem the more likely one will treat others with respect kindness and generosity. People who do not experience self-love have littl...
One of the great self-deceptions--and one of the great foolishnesses--is to tell yourself, Only I will know. Only you will know that you are a liar; only you will know you deal unethically with people...
It is not only negative feelings that become blocked. The repression extends to more and more of his emotional capacity.When one is given an anesthetic in preparation for surgery, it is not merely the...
It is painful to face the self we know we have never had the integrity to honor and assert.
Do you want to be like Goethe or any of those so-called geniuses who marry a nothing hausfrau?
If you choose not to live self-responsibly, you count on others to make up your default. No one abjures self-responsibility on a desert island.
One of the hardest expressions of self-assertiveness is challenging your limiting beliefs.
Romantic love can be terrifying. We experience another human being as enormously important to us. So there is surrender - not a surrender to the other person so much as to our feeling for the other pe...
To honor the self is to be willing to think independently, to live by our own mind, and to have the courage of our own perceptions.
While self-esteem touches virtually every aspect of our existence, there are two aspects to which it is related in very distinct and powerful ways: work and love. Through work and through love, we act...
Productive achievement is a consequence and an expression of health and self-esteem, not its cause.
In addition, if a person makes the error of identifying self with his work (rather than with the internal virtues that make the work possible), if self-esteem is tied primarily to accomplishments, suc...
When we learn how to be in an intimate relationship without abandoning our sense of self, when we learn how to be kind without being self-sacrificing, when we learn how to cooperate with others withou...
The willingness to experience and accept our feelings carries no implication that emotions are to have the last word on what we do. I may not be in the mood to work today; I can acknowledge my feeling...
Tell me how a person judges his or her self-esteem, and I will tell you how that person operates at work, in love, in sex, in parenting, in every important aspect of existence - and how high he or she...
Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is more important than the judgment we pass on ourselves.