“ We enshrine things to memory very differently than we experience them in real time. The psychologist Daniel Kahneman has coined a couple of terms to make the distinction. He talks about the "experienc… Jennifer Senior
“ You don't have a good story until something deviates from the expected," says McAdams. "And raising children leads to some pretty unexpected happenings. Jennifer Senior
“ Even when our children are still young and defenseless, we feel intimations of their departure. We find ourselves staring at them with nostalgia, wistful for the person they're about to no longer be. Jennifer Senior
“ More than almost anything else, the experience of parenthood exposes the gulf between our experiencing and remembering selves. Our experiencing selves tell researchers that we prefer doing the dishes… Jennifer Senior
“ The author observes the shift now that children are not a source of labor for the family, that they have gone from employees of the parents to the bosses of the parents. Jennifer Senior
