Though the physicality of death destroys us, the idea of death saves us.
The search for meaning, much like the search for pleasure, must be conducted obliquely.
The more the therapist is able to tolerate the anxiety of not knowing, the less need there is for the therapist to embrace orthodoxy.
Soru buydu. Onda aradığım neydi? Bende eksik olan neydi ? İyi bir yaşamım yok muydu? Yaşamımın giderek geri dönülmez bir biçimde daralan bir dehlize dönüşmekte olduğunu kime anlatabilirim? Çektiğim iş...
Ruhunda sükunete kavuşmak isteyen insanlar inanmalı ve iman etmelidir, ama hakikatin peşindeki insanlar iç huzurundan feragat edip yaşamlarını bu sorgulamaya adamak zorundadırlar.
Right, that's exactly what I mean by your being both the prisoner and the jailer.
Philosophy is a high mountain road…an isolated road and becomes even more desolate the higher we ascend. Whoever pursues this pass should know no fear but must leave everything behind and confidently...
Perhaps the real therapy occurred at the deathbed scene, when they moved into honesty with the revelation that they were fellow travelers, both simply human, all too human.
One’s efforts to escape isolation can sabotage one’s relationships with other people. Many a friendship or marriage has failed because, instead of relating to, and caring for, one another, one person...
One thing he resolved was not to make that one good year a bad year by grieving that it was not more than a year.
O relatie ideala exista numai atunci cand nu este necesara pentru supravietuirea fiecaruia dintre parteneri. Pentru a avea o relatie completa cu altcineva, trebuie sa ai mai intai o relatie cu tine in...
O perspectiva cosmica atenueaza intotdeauna tragedia. Daca urcam suficient de sus, vom atinge o inaltime de la care tragedia inceteaza sa mai para tragica.
Nu crea copii pana cand nu esti gata sa fii un creator si sa dai nastere la creatori. E gresit sa faci copii din nevoie, e gresit sa folosesti un copil pentru a-ti alina singuratatea, e gresit sa-ti c...
My work is to love my body, all of it. Whole and entire. The whole aging mortal troublesome failing miraculous intricate breathing doomed cancerous warm mortifying unreliable hard-working imperfect be...
If one is to learn to live with the dead, one must first learn to live with the living!
I often urge patients to project themselves into the future and to consider how they can live now so that five years hence they will be able to look back upon life without regret sweeping over them an...
I have noted two particularly powerful and common methods of allaying fears about death, two beliefs, or delusions, that afford a sense of safety. One is the belief in personal specialness; the other,...
I have found that four givens are particularly relevant to psychotherapy: the inevitability of death for each of us and for those we love; the freedom to make our lives as we will; our ultimate alonen...
I am very often asked why, at the age of eighty-five, I continue to practice. Tip number eighty-five (sheer coincidence that I am now eighty-five years old) begins with a simple declaration: my work w...
I am old. I am at the end of my life's work. I have no children, and I approach death full of dread. I am choking on darkness. I am choking on the silence of death. I think I know a way. I try to pier...