This was love, to be eager for tomorrow.
These Nigerianshave been raised to think of women as inherently guilty. And they have been raised to
There are people, she once wrote, who think that we cannot rule ourselves because the few times we tried, we failed, as if all the others who rule themselves today got it right the first time. It is l...
So, no, this conversation is about gender. Some people will say, Oh, but women have the real power: bottom power. (This is a Nigerian expression for a woman who uses her sexuality to get things from m...
She didn’t want to speak up because she didn’t want to seem aggressive. She let her resentments simmer. What struck me—with her and with many other female American friends I have—is how invested they...
She did not tell him this, because it would hurt him to know she had felt that way for a while, that her relationship with him was like being content in a house but always sitting by the window and lo...
Ma? I think you have the spirit of husband-repelling. You are too hard, ma, you will not find a husband. But my pastor can destroy that spirit.
Isn't it odd that in most societies in the world today, women generally cannot propose marriage? Marriage is such a major step in your life, and yet you cannot take charge of it; it depends on a man a...
If we ran Nigeria like this cell, he said, we would have no problems in this country. Things are so organized. Our cell has a Chief called General Abacha and he has a second in command. Once you come...
Foreign behavior? What the fuck are you talking about? Foreign behavior? Have you read Things Fall Apart? Ifemulu asked, wishing she had not told Ranyinudo about Dike. She was angrier with Ranyinudo t...
Feminism and femininity are not mutually exclusive. It is misogynistic to suggest that they are. Sadly, women have learned to be ashamed and apologetic about pursuits that are seen as traditionally fe...
As they walked out of the store, Ifemelu said, I was waiting for her to ask ‘Was it the one with two eyes or the one with two legs?’ Why didn’t she just ask ‘Was it the black girl or the white girl?’G...
And it's wrong of you to think that love leaves room for nothing else. It's possible to love something and still condescend to it.
A man who would be intimidated by me is exactly the kind of man I would have no interest in.
We're all social beings. We internalize ideas from our socialization.
We do not just risk repeating history if we sweep it under the carpet, we also risk being myopic about our present.
Às vezes a vida começa quando o casamento acaba.
Your feminist premise should be: I matter. I matter equally. Not if only. Not as long as. I matter equally. Full stop.
We never actively remember death,' Odenigbo said. The reason we live as we do is because we do not remember that we will die. We will all die.
I am angry. We should all be angry. Anger has a long history of bringing about positive change. But I am also hopeful, because I believe deeply in the ability of human beings to remake themselves for...