Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn't have the weight of gender expectations.
There were emotions she wanted to hold in the palm of her hand that were simply no longer there.
There are some things that are so unforgivable that they make other things easily forgivable, Kainene said. There was a pause. Inside Olanna, something calcified leaped to life.
Tell her that her body belongs to her and her alone, that she should never feel the need to say yes to something she does not want, or something she feels pressured to do. Teach her that saying no whe...
On the Subject of Non-American Blacks Suffering from Illnesses Whose Names They Refuse to Know.
They laughed and she sensed, between them, a vulgar and delicious female bond.
There was something brittle about her, and he feared she would snap apart at the slightest touch; she had thrown herself so fiercely into this, the erasing of memory, that it would destroy her.
There is so much that is still silent between Jaja and me. Perhaps we will talk more with time, or perhaps we never will be able to say it all, to clothe things in words, things that have long been na...
Men's grooming is never suspect in the way women's grooming is--a well-dressed man does not worry that, because he is dressed well, certain assumptions might be made about his intelligence, his abilit...
He was not living his life; life was living him
Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general--but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretendin...
Feminism and femininity are not mutually exclusive. It is misogynistic to suggest that they are.
Don’t see it as forgiving him. See it as allowing yourself to be happy. What will you do with the misery you have chosen? Will you eat misery?
I ask questions. I watch the world. And what I have discovered is that the parts of my fiction that people most tell me are 'unbelievable' are those that are most closely based on the real, those leas...
Non-fiction, and in particular the literary memoir, the stylised recollection of personal experience, is often as much about character and story and emotion as fiction is.
Bristling with half-baked knowledge from the books we had read.
You must never behave as if your life belongs to a man. Do you hear me? Aunty Ifeka said. Your life belongs to you and you alone.
You looked like the kind of person who will do something because you want to, and not because everyone else is doing it.
There was something in him, lighter than ego but darker than insecurity, that needed constant buffing, polishing, waxing.
Teach her about difference. Make difference ordinary. Make difference normal. Teach her not to attach value to difference. And the reason for this is not to be fair or to be nice but merely to be huma...